Bad Actors who are using it as a… tool to enforce their will, or make it seem like they are being reasonable and making reasonable requests when they aren’t.
For all my experience looking for bad actors I keep finding actors that are just unaware of their trespassing on other people’s boundaries. NVC used well, won’t be able to be used as a weapon. Unfortunately—doing that is sometimes hard. Mistakes are made, hopefully without the intention to cause harm. In my experience, I don’t find the intention to cause harm.
Of course, there are rather few people whose desires or goals are to intentionally cause harm.
But there is a rather significant amount of people who don’t particularly care (much) about you and your boundaries, when those stand in the way of whatever their goals ARE. While they might not actively desire to harm you, they certainly will if that’s the path that gets them what they want. I do consider those people to be Bad Actors.
For example, a corporation doesn’t have in its mission statement “Pollute the Earth and Engage in Questionable Labor Practices!”.… I feel like this has already been covered already somewhere between paperclips and Moloch.
I feel like you only engaged with the weakest strawman of what I said.
For all my experience looking for bad actors I keep finding actors that are just unaware of their trespassing on other people’s boundaries. NVC used well, won’t be able to be used as a weapon. Unfortunately—doing that is sometimes hard. Mistakes are made, hopefully without the intention to cause harm. In my experience, I don’t find the intention to cause harm.
Of course, there are rather few people whose desires or goals are to intentionally cause harm.
But there is a rather significant amount of people who don’t particularly care (much) about you and your boundaries, when those stand in the way of whatever their goals ARE. While they might not actively desire to harm you, they certainly will if that’s the path that gets them what they want. I do consider those people to be Bad Actors.
For example, a corporation doesn’t have in its mission statement “Pollute the Earth and Engage in Questionable Labor Practices!”.… I feel like this has already been covered already somewhere between paperclips and Moloch.
I feel like you only engaged with the weakest strawman of what I said.