I used to have the same ability (and am still well above average) but it’s lessened over the past 3 years or so. I’ve been trying to work out whether it’s due to a) age (greater number of life experiences and/or memory naturally less good), b) studies (prioritising studied material over episodic memory), c) greater socialisation (I used to be fairly isolated, so it’s possible that there were just fewer noteworthy things to remember), d) some other factor.
And relatedly: do you also have that sense of frustration when people keep repeating themselves over multiple conversations? It took me a long time to realise that they weren’t doing it on purpose and that not everyone can remember what they’ve said to who in the past.
I can live with repetition over multiple conversations, but prefer it if the person will let me mention that I’ve heard and remember what they said.
What drives me crazy is the extent to which most people repeat themselves in the same conversation. I may not be doing anyone a favor by pointing this out—but if you listen, you’ll find that the real world sounds rather like Waiting for Godot, though the topics are more varied.
I have concluded professionally that I am far more effective when I repeat myself often in conversations: I get more evidence later that the information I was conveying actually gets across.
I have yet to decide whether it’s because people mostly don’t understand and/or forget what I’ve said, so repeating myself increases the odds of a particular message getting across, or because people understand repetition to be an indicator of importance, or for some other reason.
It frustrates me, but I try to do what works rather than what I think ought to work.
That’s a good point. Do you have a way of telling whether what you’re saying has registered, or do you use a heuristic that a certain number of repetitions is likely to work?
My impression is that a lot of repetition isn’t strategic, it’s nervousness (I think people are more likely to repeat themselves when they’re looking for support and feel unsure of getting it) or making sure they get more time in the conversation.
I came to the conclusion that repetition is valuable by looking at how often, after giving a presentation in which I convey certain facts, the audience subsequently follows up in ways that make it clear that they neither retained the facts nor the awareness that I’d presented those facts. When I started making a point of repeating my key points several times during a presentation, tying it back to multiple different topics and multiple different questions, the incidence of that sort of followup question dropped.
That said, I haven’t done a careful study, and I could easily be misattributing the result to the wrong cause. For that matter, I could easily be perceiving a result that isn’t actually there. Humans make those sorts of errors all the time.
I agree that a lot of repetition is nervousness, and that a lot of it is an attempt to grab floor-time. (I’m not sure I’d call the latter nonstrategic.)
I also think a lot of repetition is an attempt to maintain control of the attention of the group. (As in: A: “X” B: “Y” C: “NOT(Y)” A: “X.”
Looking back at this, it occurs to me that I may have misunderstood your question and thus answered a different one that you meant to ask. There are things that I take as real-time indications that what I’ve said has registered—for example, being able to answer questions or to ask sensible ones—and things that I take as indicators that it hasn’t, such as asking questions I’ve already answered. When I’m talking to groups I often get neither, unless I’ve done enough prep to create exercises specifically intended to obtain them,
If the person you’re talking to is distracted by another task or has a short attention span, they may appreciate repetition, for example if the person you’re talking to is distracted by another task or has a short attention span. (I have accidentally sounded like this in LW comments before.)
Currently 22. The effect was present and seemingly unaffected moving from early school (no study) to final few years of school (lots of study) to university (some study) to current day (very little study). I’ve always been highly social, can’t rule that out.
And yes! It’s not quite as frustrating for me as it is for them, because I finish their stories for them, sometimes in the words they were going to use. I’m guilty of the same thing, though—I find it hard to remember which stories come from where. It’s only once the person begins the story that the rest of the story becomes available.
Actually, I used to have a similar ability as well, although that was primarily for life experiences + written material (came in handy on tests—read once-write anywhere, heh). It faded and largely disappeared sometime during high school. I feel I compensated fairly well afterward, so the loss doesn’t bother me too much. Not that I wouldn’t be interested if I found a way to get it back, though.
It seems different people may experience changes in this type of memory at different times. Maybe those adults who are considered to have really good memories just never had their childhood mnemonic abilities fade over time.
If I may ask: how old are you?
I used to have the same ability (and am still well above average) but it’s lessened over the past 3 years or so. I’ve been trying to work out whether it’s due to a) age (greater number of life experiences and/or memory naturally less good), b) studies (prioritising studied material over episodic memory), c) greater socialisation (I used to be fairly isolated, so it’s possible that there were just fewer noteworthy things to remember), d) some other factor.
And relatedly: do you also have that sense of frustration when people keep repeating themselves over multiple conversations? It took me a long time to realise that they weren’t doing it on purpose and that not everyone can remember what they’ve said to who in the past.
I can live with repetition over multiple conversations, but prefer it if the person will let me mention that I’ve heard and remember what they said.
What drives me crazy is the extent to which most people repeat themselves in the same conversation. I may not be doing anyone a favor by pointing this out—but if you listen, you’ll find that the real world sounds rather like Waiting for Godot, though the topics are more varied.
I have concluded professionally that I am far more effective when I repeat myself often in conversations: I get more evidence later that the information I was conveying actually gets across.
I have yet to decide whether it’s because people mostly don’t understand and/or forget what I’ve said, so repeating myself increases the odds of a particular message getting across, or because people understand repetition to be an indicator of importance, or for some other reason.
It frustrates me, but I try to do what works rather than what I think ought to work.
That’s a good point. Do you have a way of telling whether what you’re saying has registered, or do you use a heuristic that a certain number of repetitions is likely to work?
My impression is that a lot of repetition isn’t strategic, it’s nervousness (I think people are more likely to repeat themselves when they’re looking for support and feel unsure of getting it) or making sure they get more time in the conversation.
I came to the conclusion that repetition is valuable by looking at how often, after giving a presentation in which I convey certain facts, the audience subsequently follows up in ways that make it clear that they neither retained the facts nor the awareness that I’d presented those facts. When I started making a point of repeating my key points several times during a presentation, tying it back to multiple different topics and multiple different questions, the incidence of that sort of followup question dropped.
That said, I haven’t done a careful study, and I could easily be misattributing the result to the wrong cause. For that matter, I could easily be perceiving a result that isn’t actually there. Humans make those sorts of errors all the time.
I agree that a lot of repetition is nervousness, and that a lot of it is an attempt to grab floor-time. (I’m not sure I’d call the latter nonstrategic.)
I also think a lot of repetition is an attempt to maintain control of the attention of the group. (As in:
A: “X”
B: “Y”
C: “NOT(Y)”
A: “X.”
Looking back at this, it occurs to me that I may have misunderstood your question and thus answered a different one that you meant to ask. There are things that I take as real-time indications that what I’ve said has registered—for example, being able to answer questions or to ask sensible ones—and things that I take as indicators that it hasn’t, such as asking questions I’ve already answered. When I’m talking to groups I often get neither, unless I’ve done enough prep to create exercises specifically intended to obtain them,
If the person you’re talking to is distracted by another task or has a short attention span, they may appreciate repetition, for example if the person you’re talking to is distracted by another task or has a short attention span. (I have accidentally sounded like this in LW comments before.)
Weird, I also used to be really good at this.
Specifically, I could recite funny scenes from Futurama episodes verbatum after watching them once. It’s gotten worse.
I had the same problem but with the of the second Harry Potter movie when I was in second grade. People got tired of listening to me on the road trip.
Currently 22. The effect was present and seemingly unaffected moving from early school (no study) to final few years of school (lots of study) to university (some study) to current day (very little study). I’ve always been highly social, can’t rule that out.
And yes! It’s not quite as frustrating for me as it is for them, because I finish their stories for them, sometimes in the words they were going to use. I’m guilty of the same thing, though—I find it hard to remember which stories come from where. It’s only once the person begins the story that the rest of the story becomes available.
Well, I’m 26, so if there’s an age-related phenomenon going on you should be due to start experiencing it any day now ;)
Actually, I used to have a similar ability as well, although that was primarily for life experiences + written material (came in handy on tests—read once-write anywhere, heh). It faded and largely disappeared sometime during high school. I feel I compensated fairly well afterward, so the loss doesn’t bother me too much. Not that I wouldn’t be interested if I found a way to get it back, though.
It seems different people may experience changes in this type of memory at different times. Maybe those adults who are considered to have really good memories just never had their childhood mnemonic abilities fade over time.