I think both are offensive because they’re implying that the child should see themselves as only valuable if they can fulfill hypothetical strangers’ wants.
Do you get offended by the many articles floating around in recent months that deplore the dearth of “marriageable men”? Are you offended by the fact that a Google search for “marriageable men” returns about 8x more hits than a search for “marriageable women”?
Do you get offended by the many articles floating around in recent months that deplore the dearth of “marriageable men”? Are you offended by the fact that a Google search for “marriageable men” returns about 8x more hits than a search for “marriageable women”?