Shannon, thank you. I see what you’re trying to do here. However, in this particular case, I don’t feel the criticism is getting anyone anywhere. Shminux is essentially jumping to conclusions. Hearing them out is not going to change the fact that Shminux is jumping to conclusions, and it won’t convince me of anything. I hold myself to higher standards than that—I won’t allow myself to jump to conclusions with new people, so I don’t do like Shminux does and I do not particularly want to learn this jumping to conclusions technique. In hindsight, I saw that it’s probably a common bias. If you hadn’t noticed, I changed my wording a long time ago. I tried to point out Shminux’s bias once. That didn’t work. I liked my attempt, so I saved it for later. If getting a person to be aware of their bias doesn’t work, I move on. I see policing Shminux’s biased perceptions as Shminux’s responsibility. I tried it once, which was nice of me. I shouldn’t have to do it for them.
If you think there’s something I could learn here other than “Shminux is biased, which is a sign that other people might have the same bias, so it’s best not to trigger that particular bias.” then you’re going to have to be really clear because it does not look to me like there is any further to learn from Shminux’s comment.
Shannon, thank you. I see what you’re trying to do here. However, in this particular case, I don’t feel the criticism is getting anyone anywhere. Shminux is essentially jumping to conclusions. Hearing them out is not going to change the fact that Shminux is jumping to conclusions, and it won’t convince me of anything. I hold myself to higher standards than that—I won’t allow myself to jump to conclusions with new people, so I don’t do like Shminux does and I do not particularly want to learn this jumping to conclusions technique. In hindsight, I saw that it’s probably a common bias. If you hadn’t noticed, I changed my wording a long time ago. I tried to point out Shminux’s bias once. That didn’t work. I liked my attempt, so I saved it for later. If getting a person to be aware of their bias doesn’t work, I move on. I see policing Shminux’s biased perceptions as Shminux’s responsibility. I tried it once, which was nice of me. I shouldn’t have to do it for them.
If you think there’s something I could learn here other than “Shminux is biased, which is a sign that other people might have the same bias, so it’s best not to trigger that particular bias.” then you’re going to have to be really clear because it does not look to me like there is any further to learn from Shminux’s comment.