It’s possible to provide someone useful help by giving them information about their weaknesses but still be treated negatively as a result.
Telling someone to use more deodorant when they are smelly is useful help. The person might still hate you for it even if they actually use more deodorant as a result.
The social act of offering help also has an emotional aspect. A shy person can estimate that they could provide help and care about providing help and still not offer to help as a result of their shyness.
I don’t think the two are the only concerns.
If I hear a friend having a problem I often notice and I do care but I’m not sure that they would welcome my help.
Offering and receiving help for big emotional issues isn’t easy.
Part of trying to actually help is figuring out what kind of help will be useful (in this case: accepted).
It’s possible to provide someone useful help by giving them information about their weaknesses but still be treated negatively as a result.
Telling someone to use more deodorant when they are smelly is useful help. The person might still hate you for it even if they actually use more deodorant as a result.
The social act of offering help also has an emotional aspect. A shy person can estimate that they could provide help and care about providing help and still not offer to help as a result of their shyness.
Sure, so? You just have to figure out whether it’s worth it.