It’s possible to provide someone useful help by giving them information about their weaknesses but still be treated negatively as a result.
Telling someone to use more deodorant when they are smelly is useful help. The person might still hate you for it even if they actually use more deodorant as a result.
The social act of offering help also has an emotional aspect. A shy person can estimate that they could provide help and care about providing help and still not offer to help as a result of their shyness.
Part of trying to actually help is figuring out what kind of help will be useful (in this case: accepted).
It’s possible to provide someone useful help by giving them information about their weaknesses but still be treated negatively as a result.
Telling someone to use more deodorant when they are smelly is useful help. The person might still hate you for it even if they actually use more deodorant as a result.
The social act of offering help also has an emotional aspect. A shy person can estimate that they could provide help and care about providing help and still not offer to help as a result of their shyness.
Sure, so? You just have to figure out whether it’s worth it.