Which thing are you claiming here? I am a bit confused by the double negative (you’re saying there’s “widely known evidence that it isn’t true that representatives don’t even notice when abuse happens”, I think; might you rephrase?).
I’ve made stupid and harmful errors at various time, and e.g. should’ve been much quicker on the uptake about Brent, and asked more questions when Robert brought me info about his having been “bad at consent” as he put it. I don’t wish to be and don’t think I should be one of the main people trying to safeguard victims’ rights; I don’t think I have needed eyes/skill for it. (Separately, I am not putting in the time and effort required to safeguard a community of many hundreds, nor is anyone that I know of, nor do I know if we know how or if there’s much agreement on what kinds of ‘safeguarding’ are even good ideas, so there are whole piles of technical debt and gaps in common knowledge and so on here.)
Nonetheless, I don’t and didn’t view abuse as acceptable, nor did I intend to tolerate serious harms. Parts of Jay’s account of the meeting with me are inaccurate (differ from what I’m really pretty sure I remember, and also from what Robert and his husband said when I asked them for their separate recollections). (From your perspective, I could be lying, in coordination with Robert and his husband who also remember what I remember. But I’ll say my piece anyhow. And I don’t have much of a reputation for lying.) If you want details on how the me/Robert/Jay interaction went as far as I can remember, they’re discussed in a closed FB group with ~130 members that you might be able to join if you ask the mods; I can also paste them in here I guess, although it’s rather personal/detailed stuff about Robert to have on the full-on public googleable internet so maybe I’ll ask his thoughts/preferences first, or I’m interested in others’ thoughts on how the etiquette of this sort of thing ought to go. Or could PM them or something, but then you skip the “group getting to discuss it” part. We at CFAR brought Julia Wise into the discussion last time (not after the original me/Robert/Jay conversation, but after Jay’s later allegations plus Somni’s made it apparent that there was something more serious here), because we figured she was trustworthy and had a decent track record at spotting this kind of thing.
I’m claiming that CFAR representatives did in fact notice bad things happening, and that the continuation of bad things happening was not for lack of noticing. I think that you are pretty familiar with this view.
I don’t wish to be and don’t think I should be one of the main people trying to safeguard victims’ rights; I don’t think I have needed eyes/skill for it. (Separately, I am not putting in the time and effort required to safeguard a community of many hundreds,
I want to point out what is in my mind a clear difference between taking a major role as a safeguard, and failing people who trust you and when the accused confesses to you. You can dispute whether that happened but it’s not as though I am asking you to be held liable for all harms.
I can also paste them in here I guess, although it’s rather personal/detailed stuff about Robert to have on the full-on public googleable internet so maybe I’ll ask his thoughts/preferences first
If you think this guy raped people (with 80% credence or whatever) then you should probably warn people about him (in a public googleable way). If you don’t think so then you can just say so. Basically, it seems like your willingness to publish this stuff should mostly just depend on how harmful you think this person was.
I’m personally not aware of anything you did with respect to Robert that demonstrates intolerance for serious harms. Allowing somebody to continue to be an organizer for something after they confess to rape qualifies as tolerance of serious harms to me.
Of course my comment here seems litigious—I am not really trying to litigate.
In very plain terms: It has been alleged that CFAR leadership knew that Brent and Robert were committing serious harms and at the very least tolerated it. I take these allegations seriously. Anyone who takes these allegations seriously would obviously be troubled by it being taken for granted that community leaders do not even notice harms taking place.
“It has been alleged” strikes me as not meeting the bar that LW should strive to clear, when dealing with such high stakes, with this much uncertainty.
Allegations come with an alleger attached. If that alleger is someone else (i.e. if you don’t want to tie your own credibility to their account) then it’s good to just … link straight to the source.
If that alleger is you (including if you’re repeating someone else’s allegations because you found them credible enough that you’re adopting them, and repeating them on your own authority), you should be able to state them directly and concretely.
“It has been alleged” is a vague, passive-voice, miasmatic phrase that is really difficult to work with, or think clearly around.
It also implies that these allegations have not been, or cannot be, settled, as questions of fact, or at least probability. It perpetuates a sort of un-pin-downable quality, because as long as the allegations are mist and fog, just floating around absent anyone who’s taking ownership of them, they can’t be conclusively settled or affirmed, and can be repeated forever.
I think it’s pretty bad to lean into a dynamic like that.
In that very statement, you can also find CFAR’s mea culpas re: places where CFAR feels it should have become aware, prior to the moment it did become aware. CFAR does not claim that it did a good job with Brent. CFAR explicitly acknowledges pretty serious failures.
No one is asking anyone to take for granted that community leaders either [always see], or [never wrongly ignore], harms. That was a strawman. Obviously it is a valid hypothesis that community leaders can fail to see harms, or fail in their response to them. You can tell it’s a valid hypothesis because CFAR is an existence proof of community leaders outright admitting to just such a mistake.
It seems to me that Anna is trying pretty hard, in her above reply, to be open, and legible, and give-as-much-as-she-can without doing harm, herself. I read in Anna’s reply something analogous to the CFAR Brent statement: that, with hindsight, she wishes she had done some things differently, and paid more attention to some concerning signals, but that she did not suppress information, or ignore or downplay evidence of harm once it came clearly to her attention (I say “evidence of harm” rather than “harm” because it’s important to be clear about my epistemic status with regards to this question, which is that I have no idea).
I furthermore see in Anna’s comment evidence that there are non-CFAR-leadership people looking at the situation, and taking action, albeit in a venue that you and I cannot see. It doesn’t sound like anything is being ignored or suppressed.
So insofar as “things that have been alleged” are concerned, I think it boils down to something like:
Either one believes CFAR (in the Brent case) or Anna (above), or one explicitly registers (whether publicly or privately) a claim that they’re lying, or somehow blind or incompetent to a degree tantamount to lying.
Which is a valid hypothesis to hold, to be clear. Right now the whole point of the broader discussion is “are these groups and individuals good or bad, and in what ways?” It’s certainly reasonable to think “I do not believe them.”
But that’s different from “it has been alleged,” and the implication that no response has been given. To the allegation that CFAR leadership ignored Brent, there’s a clear, on-the-record answer from CFAR. To the allegation that CFAR leadership ignored Robert or other similar situations, there’s a clear, on-the-record answer from Anna above (that, yes, is not fully forthright, but that’s because there are other groups already involved in trying to answer these questions and Anna is trying not to violate those conversations nor the involved parties’ privacy).
I think that you might very well have further legitimate beef, à la your statement that “I’m claiming that CFAR representatives did in fact notice bad things happening, and that the continuation of bad things happening was not for lack of noticing.”
But I think we’re at a point where it’s important to be very clear, and to own one’s accusations clearly (or, if one is not willing to own them clearly, because e.g. one is pursuing them privately, to not leave powerful insinuations in places where they’re very difficult to responsibly answer).
The answer, in both cases given above, seems to me to be, unambiguously:
“No, we did not knowingly tolerate harm.”
If you believe CFAR and/or Anna are lying, then please proceed with that claim, whether publicly or privately.
If you believe CFAR and/or Anna are confused or incompetent, then please proceed with that claim, whether publicly or privately.
But please … actually proceed? Like, start assembling facts, and presenting them here, or presenting them to some trusted third-party arbiter, or whatever. In particular, please do not imply that no answer to the allegations has been given (passive voice). I don’t think that repeating sourceless substanceless claims—
(especially in the Brent case, where all of the facts are in common knowledge and none of them are in dispute at this point)
—after Anna’s already fairly in-depth and doing-its-best-to-cooperate reply, is doing good for anybody in either branch of possibility. It feels like election conspiracy theorists just repeating their allegations for the sake of the power the repetition provides, and never actually getting around to making a legible case.
EDIT: For the record, I was a CFAR employee from 2015 to 2018, and left (for entirely unrelated reasons) right around the same time that the Brent stuff was being resolved. The linked document was in part written with my input, and sufficiently speaks for me on the topic.
If you think this guy raped people (with 80% credence or whatever) then you should probably warn people about him (in a public googleable way).
In most legal enviroment like the US publically accusing someone of being a rapist comes with huge legal risks especially if the relevant evidence only allows 80% credence.
Calling for something like this seems to be in ignorance of the complexity of the relevant dynamics.
Allowing somebody to continue to be an organizer for something after they confess to rape
To fill in some details (I asked Robert, he’s fine with it):
Robert had not confessed to rape, at least not the way I would use the word. He had told me of an incident where (as he told it to me) [edit: the following text is rot13′d, because it contains explicit descriptions of sexual acts] ur naq Wnl unq obgu chg ba pbaqbzf, Wnl unq chg ure zbhgu ba Eboreg’f cravf, naq yngre Eboreg unq chg uvf zbhgu ba Wnl’f cravf jvgubhg nfxvat, naq pbagvahrq sbe nobhg unys n zvahgr orsber abgvpvat fbzrguvat jnf jebat. Wnl sryg genhzngvmrq ol guvf. Eboreg vzzrqvngryl erterggrq vg, naq ernyvmrq ur fubhyq unir nfxrq svefg, naq fubhyq unir abgvprq rneyvre fvtaf bs qvfpbzsbeg.
Robert asked for my help getting better at consent, and I recommended he do a bunch of sessions on consent with a life coach named Matt Porcelli, which he did (he tells me they did not much help); I also had a bunch of conversations with him about consent across several months, but suspect these did at most a small part of what was needed. I did allow him to continue using CFAR’s community space to run (non-CFAR-affiliated) LW events after he told me of this incident. In hindsight I would do a bunch of things differently around these events, particularly asking Jay more questions about how it went, and asking Robert more questions too probably, particularly since in hindsight there were a number of other signs that Robert didn’t have the right skills and character here (e.g., he found it difficult to believe he could refuse hugs; and he’d told me about a previous more minor incident involving Robert giving someone else “permission” to touch Jay’s hair.) My guess in hindsight is that the incident had more warning signs about it than I noticed at the time. But I don’t think “he confessed to rape” is a good description.
(Separately, Somni and Jay later published complaints about Robert that included more than what’s above, after which CFAR asked Robert not to be in CFAR’s community space. Robert and I remained and remain friends.)
(Robert has since worked with an AltJ group that he says actually helped a lot, if it matters, and has shown me writeups and things that leave me thinking he’s taken things pretty seriously and has been slowly acquiring the skills/character he initially lacked. I am inclined to think he has made serious progress, via serious work. But I am definitely not qualified to judge this on behalf of a community; if CFAR ever readmits Robert to community events it will be on someone else’s judgment who seems better at this sort of judgment, not sure who.)
Which thing are you claiming here? I am a bit confused by the double negative (you’re saying there’s “widely known evidence that it isn’t true that representatives don’t even notice when abuse happens”, I think; might you rephrase?).
I’ve made stupid and harmful errors at various time, and e.g. should’ve been much quicker on the uptake about Brent, and asked more questions when Robert brought me info about his having been “bad at consent” as he put it. I don’t wish to be and don’t think I should be one of the main people trying to safeguard victims’ rights; I don’t think I have needed eyes/skill for it. (Separately, I am not putting in the time and effort required to safeguard a community of many hundreds, nor is anyone that I know of, nor do I know if we know how or if there’s much agreement on what kinds of ‘safeguarding’ are even good ideas, so there are whole piles of technical debt and gaps in common knowledge and so on here.)
Nonetheless, I don’t and didn’t view abuse as acceptable, nor did I intend to tolerate serious harms. Parts of Jay’s account of the meeting with me are inaccurate (differ from what I’m really pretty sure I remember, and also from what Robert and his husband said when I asked them for their separate recollections). (From your perspective, I could be lying, in coordination with Robert and his husband who also remember what I remember. But I’ll say my piece anyhow. And I don’t have much of a reputation for lying.) If you want details on how the me/Robert/Jay interaction went as far as I can remember, they’re discussed in a closed FB group with ~130 members that you might be able to join if you ask the mods; I can also paste them in here I guess, although it’s rather personal/detailed stuff about Robert to have on the full-on public googleable internet so maybe I’ll ask his thoughts/preferences first, or I’m interested in others’ thoughts on how the etiquette of this sort of thing ought to go. Or could PM them or something, but then you skip the “group getting to discuss it” part. We at CFAR brought Julia Wise into the discussion last time (not after the original me/Robert/Jay conversation, but after Jay’s later allegations plus Somni’s made it apparent that there was something more serious here), because we figured she was trustworthy and had a decent track record at spotting this kind of thing.
I’m claiming that CFAR representatives did in fact notice bad things happening, and that the continuation of bad things happening was not for lack of noticing. I think that you are pretty familiar with this view.
I want to point out what is in my mind a clear difference between taking a major role as a safeguard, and failing people who trust you and when the accused confesses to you. You can dispute whether that happened but it’s not as though I am asking you to be held liable for all harms.
If you think this guy raped people (with 80% credence or whatever) then you should probably warn people about him (in a public googleable way). If you don’t think so then you can just say so. Basically, it seems like your willingness to publish this stuff should mostly just depend on how harmful you think this person was.
I’m personally not aware of anything you did with respect to Robert that demonstrates intolerance for serious harms. Allowing somebody to continue to be an organizer for something after they confess to rape qualifies as tolerance of serious harms to me.
Of course my comment here seems litigious—I am not really trying to litigate.
In very plain terms: It has been alleged that CFAR leadership knew that Brent and Robert were committing serious harms and at the very least tolerated it. I take these allegations seriously. Anyone who takes these allegations seriously would obviously be troubled by it being taken for granted that community leaders do not even notice harms taking place.
“It has been alleged” strikes me as not meeting the bar that LW should strive to clear, when dealing with such high stakes, with this much uncertainty.
Allegations come with an alleger attached. If that alleger is someone else (i.e. if you don’t want to tie your own credibility to their account) then it’s good to just … link straight to the source.
If that alleger is you (including if you’re repeating someone else’s allegations because you found them credible enough that you’re adopting them, and repeating them on your own authority), you should be able to state them directly and concretely.
“It has been alleged” is a vague, passive-voice, miasmatic phrase that is really difficult to work with, or think clearly around.
It also implies that these allegations have not been, or cannot be, settled, as questions of fact, or at least probability. It perpetuates a sort of un-pin-downable quality, because as long as the allegations are mist and fog, just floating around absent anyone who’s taking ownership of them, they can’t be conclusively settled or affirmed, and can be repeated forever.
I think it’s pretty bad to lean into a dynamic like that.
In very plain terms: it is the explicit and publicly stated position of CFAR leadership that they were unaware of Brent’s abuses, and that as soon as they became aware of them, they took quick and final action.
In that very statement, you can also find CFAR’s mea culpas re: places where CFAR feels it should have become aware, prior to the moment it did become aware. CFAR does not claim that it did a good job with Brent. CFAR explicitly acknowledges pretty serious failures.
No one is asking anyone to take for granted that community leaders either [always see], or [never wrongly ignore], harms. That was a strawman. Obviously it is a valid hypothesis that community leaders can fail to see harms, or fail in their response to them. You can tell it’s a valid hypothesis because CFAR is an existence proof of community leaders outright admitting to just such a mistake.
It seems to me that Anna is trying pretty hard, in her above reply, to be open, and legible, and give-as-much-as-she-can without doing harm, herself. I read in Anna’s reply something analogous to the CFAR Brent statement: that, with hindsight, she wishes she had done some things differently, and paid more attention to some concerning signals, but that she did not suppress information, or ignore or downplay evidence of harm once it came clearly to her attention (I say “evidence of harm” rather than “harm” because it’s important to be clear about my epistemic status with regards to this question, which is that I have no idea).
I furthermore see in Anna’s comment evidence that there are non-CFAR-leadership people looking at the situation, and taking action, albeit in a venue that you and I cannot see. It doesn’t sound like anything is being ignored or suppressed.
So insofar as “things that have been alleged” are concerned, I think it boils down to something like:
Either one believes CFAR (in the Brent case) or Anna (above), or one explicitly registers (whether publicly or privately) a claim that they’re lying, or somehow blind or incompetent to a degree tantamount to lying.
Which is a valid hypothesis to hold, to be clear. Right now the whole point of the broader discussion is “are these groups and individuals good or bad, and in what ways?” It’s certainly reasonable to think “I do not believe them.”
But that’s different from “it has been alleged,” and the implication that no response has been given. To the allegation that CFAR leadership ignored Brent, there’s a clear, on-the-record answer from CFAR. To the allegation that CFAR leadership ignored Robert or other similar situations, there’s a clear, on-the-record answer from Anna above (that, yes, is not fully forthright, but that’s because there are other groups already involved in trying to answer these questions and Anna is trying not to violate those conversations nor the involved parties’ privacy).
I think that you might very well have further legitimate beef, à la your statement that “I’m claiming that CFAR representatives did in fact notice bad things happening, and that the continuation of bad things happening was not for lack of noticing.”
But I think we’re at a point where it’s important to be very clear, and to own one’s accusations clearly (or, if one is not willing to own them clearly, because e.g. one is pursuing them privately, to not leave powerful insinuations in places where they’re very difficult to responsibly answer).
The answer, in both cases given above, seems to me to be, unambiguously:
“No, we did not knowingly tolerate harm.”
If you believe CFAR and/or Anna are lying, then please proceed with that claim, whether publicly or privately.
If you believe CFAR and/or Anna are confused or incompetent, then please proceed with that claim, whether publicly or privately.
But please … actually proceed? Like, start assembling facts, and presenting them here, or presenting them to some trusted third-party arbiter, or whatever. In particular, please do not imply that no answer to the allegations has been given (passive voice). I don’t think that repeating sourceless substanceless claims—
(especially in the Brent case, where all of the facts are in common knowledge and none of them are in dispute at this point)
—after Anna’s already fairly in-depth and doing-its-best-to-cooperate reply, is doing good for anybody in either branch of possibility. It feels like election conspiracy theorists just repeating their allegations for the sake of the power the repetition provides, and never actually getting around to making a legible case.
EDIT: For the record, I was a CFAR employee from 2015 to 2018, and left (for entirely unrelated reasons) right around the same time that the Brent stuff was being resolved. The linked document was in part written with my input, and sufficiently speaks for me on the topic.
In most legal enviroment like the US publically accusing someone of being a rapist comes with huge legal risks especially if the relevant evidence only allows 80% credence.
Calling for something like this seems to be in ignorance of the complexity of the relevant dynamics.
To fill in some details (I asked Robert, he’s fine with it):
Robert had not confessed to rape, at least not the way I would use the word. He had told me of an incident where (as he told it to me) [edit: the following text is rot13′d, because it contains explicit descriptions of sexual acts] ur naq Wnl unq obgu chg ba pbaqbzf, Wnl unq chg ure zbhgu ba Eboreg’f cravf, naq yngre Eboreg unq chg uvf zbhgu ba Wnl’f cravf jvgubhg nfxvat, naq pbagvahrq sbe nobhg unys n zvahgr orsber abgvpvat fbzrguvat jnf jebat. Wnl sryg genhzngvmrq ol guvf. Eboreg vzzrqvngryl erterggrq vg, naq ernyvmrq ur fubhyq unir nfxrq svefg, naq fubhyq unir abgvprq rneyvre fvtaf bs qvfpbzsbeg.
Robert asked for my help getting better at consent, and I recommended he do a bunch of sessions on consent with a life coach named Matt Porcelli, which he did (he tells me they did not much help); I also had a bunch of conversations with him about consent across several months, but suspect these did at most a small part of what was needed. I did allow him to continue using CFAR’s community space to run (non-CFAR-affiliated) LW events after he told me of this incident. In hindsight I would do a bunch of things differently around these events, particularly asking Jay more questions about how it went, and asking Robert more questions too probably, particularly since in hindsight there were a number of other signs that Robert didn’t have the right skills and character here (e.g., he found it difficult to believe he could refuse hugs; and he’d told me about a previous more minor incident involving Robert giving someone else “permission” to touch Jay’s hair.) My guess in hindsight is that the incident had more warning signs about it than I noticed at the time. But I don’t think “he confessed to rape” is a good description.
(Separately, Somni and Jay later published complaints about Robert that included more than what’s above, after which CFAR asked Robert not to be in CFAR’s community space. Robert and I remained and remain friends.)
(Robert has since worked with an AltJ group that he says actually helped a lot, if it matters, and has shown me writeups and things that leave me thinking he’s taken things pretty seriously and has been slowly acquiring the skills/character he initially lacked. I am inclined to think he has made serious progress, via serious work. But I am definitely not qualified to judge this on behalf of a community; if CFAR ever readmits Robert to community events it will be on someone else’s judgment who seems better at this sort of judgment, not sure who.)