I appreciate the added discernment here. This is definitely the kind of conversation I’d like to be having. !
someone might both (1) have never once consciously explicitly worked out any strategy or design to make it easier to harm people, and (2) across contexts, take actions that reliably develop/assemble a social field where people are being systematically harmed, and not update on information about how to not do that.
Agree. I was including that in ‘shadow stuff’.
The main difference between well-meaning and not, I think for me, is that the well-meaning person is willing to start engaging in conversations or experimenting with new systems in order to help the problems be less. Even though it’s in their shadow and they cannot see it and it might take a lot to convince them, after some time period (which could be years!), they are game enough to start making changes, trying to see it, etc.
I believe Anna S is an example of such a well-meaning person, but also I think it took her a pretty long time to come to grips with the patterns? I think she’s still in the process of discerning it? But this seems normal. Normal human level thing. Not sociopathic Epstein thing.
More controversially perhaps, I think Brent Dill has the potential to see and eat his shadow (cuz I think he actually cares about people and I’ve seen his compassion), but as you put it, he is “so drowning in his shadow that he reliably, systematically harms people.” And I actually think it’s the compassionate thing to do to prevent him from harming more people.
So where does Geoff fall here? I am still in that inquiry.
I appreciate the added discernment here. This is definitely the kind of conversation I’d like to be having. !
Agree. I was including that in ‘shadow stuff’.
The main difference between well-meaning and not, I think for me, is that the well-meaning person is willing to start engaging in conversations or experimenting with new systems in order to help the problems be less. Even though it’s in their shadow and they cannot see it and it might take a lot to convince them, after some time period (which could be years!), they are game enough to start making changes, trying to see it, etc.
I believe Anna S is an example of such a well-meaning person, but also I think it took her a pretty long time to come to grips with the patterns? I think she’s still in the process of discerning it? But this seems normal. Normal human level thing. Not sociopathic Epstein thing.
More controversially perhaps, I think Brent Dill has the potential to see and eat his shadow (cuz I think he actually cares about people and I’ve seen his compassion), but as you put it, he is “so drowning in his shadow that he reliably, systematically harms people.” And I actually think it’s the compassionate thing to do to prevent him from harming more people.
So where does Geoff fall here? I am still in that inquiry.