Who is it telling you that you’ve got to have the other person tortured, if you just happen not to feel like it?
I may not understand what you’re asking. Is this an internal family thing? There is only me in here, even if I talk to myself in thought.
The problem I have with the dilemma is that it expects me to separate myself-as-I-answer from myself-as-I-live-with-my-choice. If I had a realistic example, that might help
Scenario1
me-who-answers : “I empathize with the fifty years of as yet hypothetical suffering of a stranger, and choosing that causes me more pain than I expect to feel from stubbing my toe, so I will choose to stub my toe.”
me-who-lives-with-my-choice : “Ow! What the fuck did you do that for?”
me-who-answers : “So a stranger wouldn’t suffer torture for fifty years.”
stranger : “Yeah, thanks for that. You don’t know how much that means to me.”
me-who-lives-with-my-choice : “Yeah, you’re right. I do not and cannot ever know, so he did not decide that for my sake. He decided it for himself. So, me-who-answers, how’s that working out for you?”
me-who-answers : “Despite empathizing with the fifty years of as yet hypothetical suffering of a stranger, I recognize that I am ephemeral and my discomfort with this decision is less important than lasting effects on my successor.”
Just because your memory is going to get wiped afterwards does not mean that your on-the-spot preference is worth any less than post-memory-wipe-You’s. If you had a choice between being memory wiped, then stubbing your toe; versus taking a powerful kick to the balls now, then being memory wiped, I doubt you would sigh and spread your legs.
If you are gifted (or, in this particular case, cursed) with enough empathy that the very act of deciding to condemn a stranger to torture causes you pain, then I’m not sure you can concoct a hypothetical scenario wherein you can ignore said empathy while retaining your agency and/or identity.
Just because your memory is going to get wiped afterwards does not mean that your on-the-spot preference is worth any less than post-memory-wipe-You’s.
It really does, though. post-memory-wipe me lasts a lot longer. On-the-spot-me only exists until he decides.
If you had a choice between being memory wiped, then stubbing your toe; versus taking a powerful kick to the balls now, then being memory wiped, I doubt you would sigh and spread your legs.
Whoa, hey now. That’s not just pain, that’s an indignity. But you’re right.
(Apples-to-apples I’d take the worst headache I’ve ever had if I wouldn’t remember it and knew there’d be no long term damage over stubbing my toe in a conventional fashion.)
If you are gifted (or, in this particular case, cursed) with enough empathy that the very act of deciding to condemn a stranger to torture causes you pain, then I’m not sure you can concoct a hypothetical scenario wherein you can ignore said empathy while retaining your agency and/or identity.
I wouldn’t call it “pain,” but it is an unwelcome experience. Beyond a the risk of retribution or similar consequences, isn’t that why you don’t hurt the people you can hurt? Aren’t there experiences you would not call pain that you’d choose pain over? I get the feeling that I’m missing something obvious, here.
I’ve got an idea why I was hesitating instead of taking the easy answer in the first place. I think it felt like a trick question and I fixed on the not-remembering part. It was so out of place, so wild that it just had to determine the answer. Like, why would you put that in the question if it wasn’t what the question was about?
Acting without remembering has to be irrelevant, it’s just too damn far out of scope. I’m never going to appreciate it on a meat level and don’t need to plan for making decisions with that caveat. Fuck that noise.
Some skills aren’t especially useful outside of the environment that spawned them.
Upon further reflection, I think the question of “how much of the pain/suffering/unpleasantness/etc. from a given even happens on the spot, and how much lingers on in the memory?” has an answer that wildly varies, even for the same individual.
The worst physical pain I ever felt involved a certain surgical operation, but it causes me no discomfort whatsoever to remember it; conversely, I once got stung by an unknown insect while still half-asleep, and the thought still makes me twitch and clutch at my neck. On a more mental level, there are a few seemingly random subjects that make me flinch and feel burning shame whenever brought up, because almost a decade ago I happened to make a fool of myself in conversations that involved them; yet those were by no means the most sorrowful moments of my life, or even the most embarrassing.
So I would consider the question “would you take X pre-memory wipe, or Y post-wipe?” highly dependant on X and Y. And yes, I find myself agreeing that X=‘condemn a stranger to torture’ would be exactly the kind of event that inflicts the majority of its suffering through memory and regret.
On a more mental level, there are a few seemingly random subjects that make me flinch and feel burning shame whenever brought up, because almost a decade ago I happened to make a fool of myself in conversations that involved them; yet those were by no means the most sorrowful moments of my life, or even the most embarrassing.
Regret management seems to get more important with age. The fuckers accumulate.
One thing I do is remind myself, “I want to be the kind of guy who’s cool with having done that.” And, if possible, “It was an inexpensive lesson that it was good to learn.” Do affirmations like that have any impact on your regrets?
The right choice? Who is it telling you that you’ve got to have the other person tortured, if you just happen not to feel like it?
I may not understand what you’re asking. Is this an internal family thing? There is only me in here, even if I talk to myself in thought.
The problem I have with the dilemma is that it expects me to separate myself-as-I-answer from myself-as-I-live-with-my-choice. If I had a realistic example, that might help
Scenario 1
me-who-answers : “I empathize with the fifty years of as yet hypothetical suffering of a stranger, and choosing that causes me more pain than I expect to feel from stubbing my toe, so I will choose to stub my toe.”
me-who-lives-with-my-choice : “Ow! What the fuck did you do that for?”
me-who-answers : “So a stranger wouldn’t suffer torture for fifty years.”
stranger : “Yeah, thanks for that. You don’t know how much that means to me.”
me-who-lives-with-my-choice : “Yeah, you’re right. I do not and cannot ever know, so he did not decide that for my sake. He decided it for himself. So, me-who-answers, how’s that working out for you?”
me-who-answers : “Oh, I don’t exist anymore.”
me-who-lives-with-my-choice : “Well fuck you, toe-stubber!”
Scenario 2
me-who-answers : “Despite empathizing with the fifty years of as yet hypothetical suffering of a stranger, I recognize that I am ephemeral and my discomfort with this decision is less important than lasting effects on my successor.”
me-who-lives-with-my-choice : whistles ignorantly
stranger : “AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!”
Just because your memory is going to get wiped afterwards does not mean that your on-the-spot preference is worth any less than post-memory-wipe-You’s. If you had a choice between being memory wiped, then stubbing your toe; versus taking a powerful kick to the balls now, then being memory wiped, I doubt you would sigh and spread your legs.
If you are gifted (or, in this particular case, cursed) with enough empathy that the very act of deciding to condemn a stranger to torture causes you pain, then I’m not sure you can concoct a hypothetical scenario wherein you can ignore said empathy while retaining your agency and/or identity.
It really does, though. post-memory-wipe me lasts a lot longer. On-the-spot-me only exists until he decides.
Whoa, hey now. That’s not just pain, that’s an indignity. But you’re right.
(Apples-to-apples I’d take the worst headache I’ve ever had if I wouldn’t remember it and knew there’d be no long term damage over stubbing my toe in a conventional fashion.)
I wouldn’t call it “pain,” but it is an unwelcome experience. Beyond a the risk of retribution or similar consequences, isn’t that why you don’t hurt the people you can hurt? Aren’t there experiences you would not call pain that you’d choose pain over? I get the feeling that I’m missing something obvious, here.
I’ve got an idea why I was hesitating instead of taking the easy answer in the first place. I think it felt like a trick question and I fixed on the not-remembering part. It was so out of place, so wild that it just had to determine the answer. Like, why would you put that in the question if it wasn’t what the question was about?
Acting without remembering has to be irrelevant, it’s just too damn far out of scope. I’m never going to appreciate it on a meat level and don’t need to plan for making decisions with that caveat. Fuck that noise.
Some skills aren’t especially useful outside of the environment that spawned them.
I would like to learn why this comment has been penalized..
Upon further reflection, I think the question of “how much of the pain/suffering/unpleasantness/etc. from a given even happens on the spot, and how much lingers on in the memory?” has an answer that wildly varies, even for the same individual.
The worst physical pain I ever felt involved a certain surgical operation, but it causes me no discomfort whatsoever to remember it; conversely, I once got stung by an unknown insect while still half-asleep, and the thought still makes me twitch and clutch at my neck. On a more mental level, there are a few seemingly random subjects that make me flinch and feel burning shame whenever brought up, because almost a decade ago I happened to make a fool of myself in conversations that involved them; yet those were by no means the most sorrowful moments of my life, or even the most embarrassing.
So I would consider the question “would you take X pre-memory wipe, or Y post-wipe?” highly dependant on X and Y. And yes, I find myself agreeing that X=‘condemn a stranger to torture’ would be exactly the kind of event that inflicts the majority of its suffering through memory and regret.
Regret management seems to get more important with age. The fuckers accumulate.
One thing I do is remind myself, “I want to be the kind of guy who’s cool with having done that.” And, if possible, “It was an inexpensive lesson that it was good to learn.” Do affirmations like that have any impact on your regrets?