I hope other folks will chime in if they disagree with me, but I’d say that “Are you proud of yourself?” is always an attack, and specifically a parent-to-child sort of attack at that.
Agree, but Silas’s actual question was
And if you have, are you proud of the way you’ve treated a person in that position?
However, I think asking people if they’re proud of what they’ve done when you’ve made it clear you don’t approve of it and they haven’t shown signs of pride is still an attack, though a milder one.
Why on Earth was the parent voted down? For goodness’ sake, I hadn’t seen Silas’s reply when I wrote it (as you can see by comparing the times).
(I’ll delete this comment as soon as both it and the parent are at 0 or more—so no need to downvote this comment if you sympathize about the parent but don’t think I should have written this.)
Agree, but Silas’s actual question was
which could be an honest inquiry.
You’re right about the quote.
However, I think asking people if they’re proud of what they’ve done when you’ve made it clear you don’t approve of it and they haven’t shown signs of pride is still an attack, though a milder one.
Why on Earth was the parent voted down? For goodness’ sake, I hadn’t seen Silas’s reply when I wrote it (as you can see by comparing the times).
(I’ll delete this comment as soon as both it and the parent are at 0 or more—so no need to downvote this comment if you sympathize about the parent but don’t think I should have written this.)