The comments on this post went in a direction that I was not intending. When I wrote this post, I wasn’t thinking about less wrong in particular, but instead I thought that this was a universal phenomenon. I was trying to make the point that under any circumstances you must use at least one of the three options to some extent, and that this was sad because all three have their own unique downsides.
In a typical situation, the usual strategy is to have a few close friends you are honest with, and with all other people don’t ruin the illusion that you share the group beliefs. Do the minimum that is required to avoid suspicion. Pick your battles carefully.
The comments on this post went in a direction that I was not intending. When I wrote this post, I wasn’t thinking about less wrong in particular, but instead I thought that this was a universal phenomenon. I was trying to make the point that under any circumstances you must use at least one of the three options to some extent, and that this was sad because all three have their own unique downsides.
In a typical situation, the usual strategy is to have a few close friends you are honest with, and with all other people don’t ruin the illusion that you share the group beliefs. Do the minimum that is required to avoid suspicion. Pick your battles carefully.
Paul Graham wrote about this: What You Can’t Say, Re: What You Can’t Say, Labels.