Focusing by Eugene T. Gendlin is a good framework of handling emotions.
I try to just keep reminding myself that it’s simply an optimization problem.
Dealing with your own emotions as an optimization issue is seldom the best approach.
Sorry, I meant that the situation is an optimization problem. Like I’m trying to get something out of the people.
Here are some different descriptions of a scenario:
That person is stupid.
That person is making a mistake.
That person is not doing what I want them to do.
I and that person are failing to come to terms that would be mutually beneficial to us.
Do these elicit different reactions?
Like I’m trying to get something out of the people.
That’s likely your problem.
Focusing by Eugene T. Gendlin is a good framework of handling emotions.
Dealing with your own emotions as an optimization issue is seldom the best approach.
Sorry, I meant that the situation is an optimization problem. Like I’m trying to get something out of the people.
Here are some different descriptions of a scenario:
That person is stupid.
That person is making a mistake.
That person is not doing what I want them to do.
I and that person are failing to come to terms that would be mutually beneficial to us.
Do these elicit different reactions?
That’s likely your problem.