Negative: a couple decided to go poly after some years in a stable monogamous relationship. It seemed to go well for a few months, but the guy apparently told a few white lies here and there, which then got completely out of control and eventually resulted in a disaster for pretty much everyone involved.
Neutral/negative: a couple was poly for maybe half a year or so, then decided it was “too much trouble” and returned to monogamy. I don’t know them well enough to be able to provide more details, but they have been together for a few years after that and are now having a child, so nothing terrible probably happened.
I know plenty of other poly people as well, but don’t know as much of what’s going on in their individual relationships. The general feeling I get is that while a healthy poly relationship certainly isn’t impossible, they are only rarely very stable and often seem to require significantly more attention and work to succeed even when they do (which of course are not negative things to everyone, and it can be worth it anyway in case the freedom and additional partners bring a lot of value). Problems arising from insufficient honesty are pretty common, even among those who would generally seem to value trust and openness, so that’s probably an important thing to watch out for.
Negative: a couple decided to go poly after some years in a stable monogamous relationship. It seemed to go well for a few months, but the guy apparently told a few white lies here and there, which then got completely out of control and eventually resulted in a disaster for pretty much everyone involved.
Neutral/negative: a couple was poly for maybe half a year or so, then decided it was “too much trouble” and returned to monogamy. I don’t know them well enough to be able to provide more details, but they have been together for a few years after that and are now having a child, so nothing terrible probably happened.
I know plenty of other poly people as well, but don’t know as much of what’s going on in their individual relationships. The general feeling I get is that while a healthy poly relationship certainly isn’t impossible, they are only rarely very stable and often seem to require significantly more attention and work to succeed even when they do (which of course are not negative things to everyone, and it can be worth it anyway in case the freedom and additional partners bring a lot of value). Problems arising from insufficient honesty are pretty common, even among those who would generally seem to value trust and openness, so that’s probably an important thing to watch out for.