The reason I mentioned epistemic tools is that it’s possible to be wrong about what your own values are, but people sometimes don’t easily accept this idea. Where you expect people finding your value objectionable, I expect people seeing you as mistaken about the fact of this value actually being your own. You believe it is, but it’s probably not (based on what indirect evidence you revealed).
The reason I mentioned epistemic tools is that it’s possible to be wrong about what your own values are, but people sometimes don’t easily accept this idea. Where you expect people finding your value objectionable, I expect people seeing you as mistaken about the fact of this value actually being your own. You believe it is, but it’s probably not (based on what indirect evidence you revealed).