“Submission” is an explanation for why people often don’t bother to do this, and try to simply accept a lowered status. This behavior only makes sense if it is sometimes adaptive. And the simplest explanation for why it is adaptive, is that in their experience it’s often been what the disappointed/angry person wants.
Well, yeah. The vast majority of such fights would be far more painful if the perpetrator said “yup, I found something better to do; this is not as important to me as it is to you” than the social fiction of apologizing and claiming weakness.
Well, yeah. The vast majority of such fights would be far more painful if the perpetrator said “yup, I found something better to do; this is not as important to me as it is to you” than the social fiction of apologizing and claiming weakness.