I do think you are making sense—but assuming I am correctly understanding you, I also mostly disagree. This feels like pernicious Deep Wisdom to me.
Disappointment means you notice a disconnect between your observations and your expectations for those observations. Observing that disconnect is useful. It is good data, and useful (negative) reinforcement of related actions. Yes, it is partly data about yourself and your expectations, and you should update those too, which is also useful to help you update your map, but in addition it is information about this particular result and source of feedback.
It also is good information for other people’s maps, and we all agree that when we disappoint someone else, we want them to tell us. Or at least we want that now, while we are in far mode!
Getting angry, as opposed to disappointed, is more likely to be counterproductive, especially once it has already been observed, although telling someone ‘there is no need to be angry’ or even simply ‘do not be angry’ has a long history of not having the requested effect.
Disappointment means you notice a disconnect between your observations and your expectations for those observations.
Not quite. Disappointment is a specific emotional reaction usually associated with the mismatch between your expectations (often unreasonably high aka “hope”) and outcomes.
I do think you are making sense—but assuming I am correctly understanding you, I also mostly disagree. This feels like pernicious Deep Wisdom to me.
Disappointment means you notice a disconnect between your observations and your expectations for those observations. Observing that disconnect is useful. It is good data, and useful (negative) reinforcement of related actions. Yes, it is partly data about yourself and your expectations, and you should update those too, which is also useful to help you update your map, but in addition it is information about this particular result and source of feedback.
It also is good information for other people’s maps, and we all agree that when we disappoint someone else, we want them to tell us. Or at least we want that now, while we are in far mode!
Getting angry, as opposed to disappointed, is more likely to be counterproductive, especially once it has already been observed, although telling someone ‘there is no need to be angry’ or even simply ‘do not be angry’ has a long history of not having the requested effect.
Not quite. Disappointment is a specific emotional reaction usually associated with the mismatch between your expectations (often unreasonably high aka “hope”) and outcomes.