Thank you, I am familiar with that post. Their explanation is:
Suppose you’re a man who’s really into someone. If you suspect other men are uninterested, it means less competition. You therefore have an added incentive to send a message. You might start thinking: maybe she’s lonely. . . maybe she’s just waiting to find a guy who appreciates her. . . at least I won’t get lost in the crowd. . . maybe these small thoughts, plus the fact that you really think she’s hot, prod you to action. You send her the perfectly crafted opening message.
On Tinder/bumble/etc. it’s just as costly to swipe left as it is to swipe right. I don’t think people are as likely to factor in likelihood of success when swiping as they are when deciding to invest the time to send a message. (One exception is super likes, but I’m skeptical that one should optimize their profile for super likes.)
Also, to the extent that one thinks this theory is valid, I don’t think the resulting advice is to “play up unique ways you are attractive” – instead, it’s to signal in your profile that you are attracted to people who are conventionally unattractive (e.g. “thicc thighs save lives”) and still be conventionally attractive yourself.
Thank you, I am familiar with that post. Their explanation is:
On Tinder/bumble/etc. it’s just as costly to swipe left as it is to swipe right. I don’t think people are as likely to factor in likelihood of success when swiping as they are when deciding to invest the time to send a message. (One exception is super likes, but I’m skeptical that one should optimize their profile for super likes.)
Also, to the extent that one thinks this theory is valid, I don’t think the resulting advice is to “play up unique ways you are attractive” – instead, it’s to signal in your profile that you are attracted to people who are conventionally unattractive (e.g. “thicc thighs save lives”) and still be conventionally attractive yourself.