The whole “happiness limited by shyness/social awkwardness which results in no dates” stereotype does not apply to many people here.
It does to at least one.
I’m all for this. I’ve gotten sort of lucky by wandering into a path where I can be professionally and financially successful without needing social skills beyond not saying blatantly inappropriate things. But developing those skills would provide many more options, and give me a much better shot at making an actual impact on the world.
And yes, being involuntarily single for years is neither enjoyable nor conducive to productivity.
Maybe consider an another term, PUA as a term can drag many shitstorms and divide community even if you are trying to avoid dark arts.
The whole “happiness limited by shyness/social awkwardness which results in no dates” stereotype does not apply to many people here.
e.g. I consider job interviews much more terrifying than finding new people (which seems mostly limited by the amount of free time).
It does to at least one.
I’m all for this. I’ve gotten sort of lucky by wandering into a path where I can be professionally and financially successful without needing social skills beyond not saying blatantly inappropriate things. But developing those skills would provide many more options, and give me a much better shot at making an actual impact on the world.
And yes, being involuntarily single for years is neither enjoyable nor conducive to productivity.
How’s that?
Because some people are in happy long term relationships, where picking new people up or dating new people are not very important.
There was a poll a while back, I seem to recall that most LWers were single males in their twenties.
There may have been a demographic shift since.
I think Violet meant “there are many people to whom it doesn’t apply’, not “there are not many people to whom it applies”.
I was having trouble figuring out which of those two parsings was the intended one.
“there are many people to whom it doesn’t apply”.
Sorry for the confusion, english is not my first language so sometimes my sentence structures will be confusing.
If the site takes an implicit almost-every-of-us-is-a-single-het-man then it will probably self-select into that direction.