3 - It better be very focused, with a strong cultural element that says “do this or you are doing nothing”, on in-person practice and feedback, otherwise it will just be wankery—“social skills porn” posts that people read and write without ever learning anything. You know, kind of like Less Wrong is rationalist porn :). While I’m sure that lots of people read PUA without practicing it, there is a strong cultural tradition that PUA is all about “the field” and you can’t practice it very far without going into “the field”. If you don’t have that, you are doomed.
I have a long post about this coming up, with a pretty similar viewpoint to yours, just a more general goal, and similar technical requirements, we should talk.
Yeah, this could easily turn into really boring porn if it’s all talk (though I dispute LW being rationalist porn, I use things I’ve learned here every single day).
One of the key reasons I decided to risk the PUA fallout is to convey the tradition of getting out in the field that you mention. That’s also part of why I hesitate to suggest books. I know that I have a bad habit of preferring reading about doing stuff to actually doing stuff, and I suspect I’m not alone.
Look forward to your post. I’d love to chat, PM me for contact info.
3 - It better be very focused, with a strong cultural element that says “do this or you are doing nothing”, on in-person practice and feedback, otherwise it will just be wankery—“social skills porn” posts that people read and write without ever learning anything. You know, kind of like Less Wrong is rationalist porn :). While I’m sure that lots of people read PUA without practicing it, there is a strong cultural tradition that PUA is all about “the field” and you can’t practice it very far without going into “the field”. If you don’t have that, you are doomed.
I have a long post about this coming up, with a pretty similar viewpoint to yours, just a more general goal, and similar technical requirements, we should talk.
Yeah, this could easily turn into really boring porn if it’s all talk (though I dispute LW being rationalist porn, I use things I’ve learned here every single day).
One of the key reasons I decided to risk the PUA fallout is to convey the tradition of getting out in the field that you mention. That’s also part of why I hesitate to suggest books. I know that I have a bad habit of preferring reading about doing stuff to actually doing stuff, and I suspect I’m not alone.
Look forward to your post. I’d love to chat, PM me for contact info.