WHEN I feel bad/uneasy at any point, THEN find the part of my mind that’s complaining, and lend it my voice & mental-space.
I have previously tried to install a “somatic trigger” for whenever I feel bad (ie “when I feel bad, close my eyes and fold my hands together in front of me in a calm motion”), but it failed to take bc there weren’t clear-enough cues. The point of a somatic trigger in the first place is to install them in specific contexts such that I have clearer cues for whatever habits I may wish to write into those contexts.
I recommend to reflect in writing. I normally open up a blank document on my laptop and type away. I like to write full-text. I.e. full sentences just like I write now, instead of bullet points. I think it makes me smarter.
You want to speak for that part of you and think about why it makes sense to feel that way. Don’t be judgemental. Forget about the things you want, and how inconvenient it might be to feel this way. It can be useful to give the part you are speaking for a name. This should be a positive-sounding, descriptive name. It should be endorsed by the part you are speaking for. In the above example, I did not give out a name, but if I had it might have been something like “Rejection Protector”, as the system tries to protect me from getting rejected.
You also want to constantly check if what you are saying is actually endorsed by the part of you for which you are trying to speak. If you feel really good and it feels like “a knot unties within you” then that means that you are endorsed by the part you are speaking for.
I actually just stopped taking antidepressants 2 weeks ago, and so far I have not felt the need to start again, and I think this has been in part to this technique and some other related realizations (see the first edit). Though it is too early to tell if this is just a random coincidence I think. Maybe I will regress.
Oi! This was potentially usefwl for me to read.
WHEN I feel bad/uneasy at any point,
THEN find the part of my mind that’s complaining, and lend it my voice & mental-space.
I have previously tried to install a “somatic trigger” for whenever I feel bad (ie “when I feel bad, close my eyes and fold my hands together in front of me in a calm motion”), but it failed to take bc there weren’t clear-enough cues. The point of a somatic trigger in the first place is to install them in specific contexts such that I have clearer cues for whatever habits I may wish to write into those contexts.
I recommend to reflect in writing. I normally open up a blank document on my laptop and type away. I like to write full-text. I.e. full sentences just like I write now, instead of bullet points. I think it makes me smarter.
You want to speak for that part of you and think about why it makes sense to feel that way. Don’t be judgemental. Forget about the things you want, and how inconvenient it might be to feel this way. It can be useful to give the part you are speaking for a name. This should be a positive-sounding, descriptive name. It should be endorsed by the part you are speaking for. In the above example, I did not give out a name, but if I had it might have been something like “Rejection Protector”, as the system tries to protect me from getting rejected.
You also want to constantly check if what you are saying is actually endorsed by the part of you for which you are trying to speak. If you feel really good and it feels like “a knot unties within you” then that means that you are endorsed by the part you are speaking for.
I actually just stopped taking antidepressants 2 weeks ago, and so far I have not felt the need to start again, and I think this has been in part to this technique and some other related realizations (see the first edit). Though it is too early to tell if this is just a random coincidence I think. Maybe I will regress.