I would highly recommend getting someone else to debug your subconscious for you. At least it worked for me. I don’t think it would be possible for me to have debugged myself.
My first therapist was highly directive. He’d say stuff like “Try noticing when you think X, and asking yourself what happened immediately before that. Report back next week.” And listing agenda items and drawing diagrams on a whiteboard. As an engineer, I loved it. My second therapist was more in the “providing supportive comments while I talk about my life” school. I don’t think that helped much, at least subjectively from the inside.
Here‘s a possibly instructive anecdote about my first therapist. Near the end of a session, I feel like my mind has been stretched in some heretofore-unknown direction. It’s a sensation I’ve never had before. So I say, “Wow, my mind feels like it’s been stretched in some heretofore-unknown direction. How do you do that?” He says, “Do you want me to explain?” And I say, “Does it still work if I know what you’re doing?” And he says, “Possibly not, but it’s important you feel I’m trustworthy, so I’ll explain if you want.” So I say “Why mess with success? Keep doing the thing. I trust you.” That’s an example of a debugging procedure you can’t do to yourself.
I would highly recommend getting someone else to debug your subconscious for you. At least it worked for me. I don’t think it would be possible for me to have debugged myself.
My first therapist was highly directive. He’d say stuff like “Try noticing when you think X, and asking yourself what happened immediately before that. Report back next week.” And listing agenda items and drawing diagrams on a whiteboard. As an engineer, I loved it. My second therapist was more in the “providing supportive comments while I talk about my life” school. I don’t think that helped much, at least subjectively from the inside.
Here‘s a possibly instructive anecdote about my first therapist. Near the end of a session, I feel like my mind has been stretched in some heretofore-unknown direction. It’s a sensation I’ve never had before. So I say, “Wow, my mind feels like it’s been stretched in some heretofore-unknown direction. How do you do that?” He says, “Do you want me to explain?” And I say, “Does it still work if I know what you’re doing?” And he says, “Possibly not, but it’s important you feel I’m trustworthy, so I’ll explain if you want.” So I say “Why mess with success? Keep doing the thing. I trust you.” That’s an example of a debugging procedure you can’t do to yourself.