It’s not that people change their position during the conversation. It’s that a few of them realize later that they didn’t have a good reply, and they think about it.
That said, we may not be trying to accomplish the same thing.
What I find it works for, for me, is developing a better understanding of what assumptions and thought processes led to the statement, which over time gives me a better sense of how to express myself so that person understands me, and how to interpret what they say.
Yes, but you have to know your target and the circumstances. Some statements are considered “fair game” for such analysis, because the person would care that their statement was irrational, and some aren’t.
If you’re not sure which of these cases holds, I have found asking a low stakes question to be the best way to find out.
Has this ever worked for you? It never has for me.
It’s not that people change their position during the conversation. It’s that a few of them realize later that they didn’t have a good reply, and they think about it.
It’s hard to measure this, but it has happened to me many times, and I like to generalize from one example.
This actually works on me lots and lots. Slowly, but it does.
It works for me frequently.
That said, we may not be trying to accomplish the same thing.
What I find it works for, for me, is developing a better understanding of what assumptions and thought processes led to the statement, which over time gives me a better sense of how to express myself so that person understands me, and how to interpret what they say.
It’s frequently worked for me. To make a lasting impact usually takes persistence and a good demeanor though.
Seem “common-sensical”. They probably had parents who had occasion to deal with them attempting something dangerously stupid when they were little.
I think this worked on me. But my success anecdotes end there. So, reason enough to keep trying it, but also good reason to look for better tactics.
Yes, but you have to know your target and the circumstances. Some statements are considered “fair game” for such analysis, because the person would care that their statement was irrational, and some aren’t.
If you’re not sure which of these cases holds, I have found asking a low stakes question to be the best way to find out.