I think there is one important negative of of self-sacrifice that you are missing here, or at least of self-sacrifice that is apparent to anyone but yourself.
Even though it’s a cliche quote, Zarathustra puts it best:
What should I have to give thee! Let me rather hurry hence lest I take aught away from thee!
It is extremely hard to criticize the choices of someone that seems to be sacrificing a lot, or at least who seems to have that impression of themselves and whom others have that impression of. For you are afraid of disturbing whatever “holiness” lead the them there, and even if not, you are afraid of other people seeing it that way and thus shunning you for the criticism given.
I think there is one important negative of of self-sacrifice that you are missing here, or at least of self-sacrifice that is apparent to anyone but yourself.
Even though it’s a cliche quote, Zarathustra puts it best:
It is extremely hard to criticize the choices of someone that seems to be sacrificing a lot, or at least who seems to have that impression of themselves and whom others have that impression of. For you are afraid of disturbing whatever “holiness” lead the them there, and even if not, you are afraid of other people seeing it that way and thus shunning you for the criticism given.