Mostly, this means being relaxed and at ease. If you’re not sure what confidence is, you’ll probably think it means being aggressive, boisterous, or some sort of backslapping, hand-grabbing, “hail-fellows-well-met”, can-do attitude. Everybody actually hates that guy. Be relaxed and at ease, instead, but match your overall “energy level” to the group you’re in. It’s okay if you’re a little lower or higher, but being close in energy level signals social calibration—i.e., that the group’s preferences are important to you.
One of the really nasty side effects of being introverted is that if you’re not socially calibrated, you may well be constantly signaling to other people that they’re both boring and beneath you.
Mostly, this means being relaxed and at ease. If you’re not sure what confidence is, you’ll probably think it means being aggressive, boisterous, or some sort of backslapping, hand-grabbing, “hail-fellows-well-met”, can-do attitude. Everybody actually hates that guy. Be relaxed and at ease, instead, but match your overall “energy level” to the group you’re in. It’s okay if you’re a little lower or higher, but being close in energy level signals social calibration—i.e., that the group’s preferences are important to you.
One of the really nasty side effects of being introverted is that if you’re not socially calibrated, you may well be constantly signaling to other people that they’re both boring and beneath you.