I don’t know how to square that with the idea that one shouldn’t ignore their crying kids. I have no idea how kids’ crying at night works. Is it possible that a parent should just suck it up and come and comfort the baby every time they cry? Maybe you can comfort her since she’s crying but not give her the reward of soothing her until she falls asleep? Is it possible that she cries at night because she’s doesn’t get enough cuddles during the day or because the room looks scary or something like that? I don’t know enough about the situation and I don’t have any kids of my own and don’t have any practical experience of dealing with them. Maybe you can be there with her in her sleeping room when she cries but still make it so that she learns to self-soothe and put herself to sleep? Like, idk, stay with her but don’t rock her to sleep or something like that.
I don’t know how to square that with the idea that one shouldn’t ignore their crying kids. I have no idea how kids’ crying at night works. Is it possible that a parent should just suck it up and come and comfort the baby every time they cry? Maybe you can comfort her since she’s crying but not give her the reward of soothing her until she falls asleep? Is it possible that she cries at night because she’s doesn’t get enough cuddles during the day or because the room looks scary or something like that? I don’t know enough about the situation and I don’t have any kids of my own and don’t have any practical experience of dealing with them. Maybe you can be there with her in her sleeping room when she cries but still make it so that she learns to self-soothe and put herself to sleep? Like, idk, stay with her but don’t rock her to sleep or something like that.
It seems like you don’t have an explicit justification for why one shouldn’t do that, and basically believe that because people have told you.
There might be valid reasons for that notion or not, but there’s no necessity to square it together.