I show care and respect for people by only scheduling things when I know even a 5th percentile outcome has me showing up on time and in a reasonably good mood, at the cost of scheduling fewer things. A very good friend of mine shows care and respect for people by squeezing them in when she doesn’t really have time, so she’s often late and kind of frazzled. We never solved this, and we could never agree on how to solve it, in part because that required agreeing on a time to do so.
Some of the difficulty is baggage from when we were worse at things and I think if I ran into the same problem with a new person I’d do somewhat better, but in my heart I still kind of believe the answer is “you stop being wrong”.
I show care and respect for people by only scheduling things when I know even a 5th percentile outcome has me showing up on time and in a reasonably good mood, at the cost of scheduling fewer things. A very good friend of mine shows care and respect for people by squeezing them in when she doesn’t really have time, so she’s often late and kind of frazzled. We never solved this, and we could never agree on how to solve it, in part because that required agreeing on a time to do so.
Some of the difficulty is baggage from when we were worse at things and I think if I ran into the same problem with a new person I’d do somewhat better, but in my heart I still kind of believe the answer is “you stop being wrong”.