It’s probably too late to do this for the OP, but in the future, I propose having two separate posts in situations like these.
One discussing any general thoughts on things like communication cultures and community norms.
And a second discussing any things specific to the particular incident. Which in this case would be discussions about Kat, Emerson, Alice and Chloe.
Why? Because as discussed here, I think most people shouldn’t spend more than a few minutes paying attention to (2). On the other hand, (1) seems like a perfectly good conversation for most people to spend time on.
And as a bonus, I pretty strongly suspect that firmly factoring out (1) from (2) would be quite helpful in making progress on (2).
It’s probably too late to do this for the OP, but in the future, I propose having two separate posts in situations like these.
One discussing any general thoughts on things like communication cultures and community norms.
And a second discussing any things specific to the particular incident. Which in this case would be discussions about Kat, Emerson, Alice and Chloe.
Why? Because as discussed here, I think most people shouldn’t spend more than a few minutes paying attention to (2). On the other hand, (1) seems like a perfectly good conversation for most people to spend time on.
And as a bonus, I pretty strongly suspect that firmly factoring out (1) from (2) would be quite helpful in making progress on (2).