>When someone walking by you casually suggests you can do something you might find more pleasant, that is ‘imposing their beliefs on others.’
It seems like you don’t realize how annoying this is to experience. It’s like strangers telling me to smile. Fuck them! It’s a boundary violation to assume that you know what’s good for someone who you know nothing about, especially if they don’t look particularly comfortable.
I also think the phrase you use is euphemistic. I can see instances of “casually suggesting something you might find more pleasant” that are totally fine. For instance, for some reason I used to keep on my school backpack when I sat down in trams in Switzerland because my route was only 8 minutes and I thought taking it off isn’t worth it for such a short amount of time. But sitting that way was actually quite uncomfortable. And sometimes people would say “Why aren’t you taking off your backpack and put it in front of you, you don’t look comfortable.” And once I started doing that, I realized “Oh yeah, this is clearly worth it.”
By contrast, with the mask example, it just wouldn’t make sense to assume that the thought of not wearing the mask (now that requirements have long been lifted) had never occurred to the other person. Therefore, I don’t buy that people are trying to be helpful. Instead, they’re disrespectful for giving “advice” (from the position of being a literal stranger!) that the other person must have already considered and decided against. That’s implicitly judging someone to be bad at deciding what’s good for them, which is why I think “imposing your views on others” is accurate. In particular, it’s something like “imposing your typical mind fallacy on others.”
It seems like you don’t realize how annoying this is to experience. It’s like strangers telling me to smile. Fuck them! It’s a boundary violation to assume that you know what’s good for someone who you know nothing about, especially if they don’t look particularly comfortable.
I also think the phrase you use is euphemistic. I can see instances of “casually suggesting something you might find more pleasant” that are totally fine. For instance, for some reason I used to keep on my school backpack when I sat down in trams in Switzerland because my route was only 8 minutes and I thought taking it off isn’t worth it for such a short amount of time. But sitting that way was actually quite uncomfortable. And sometimes people would say “Why aren’t you taking off your backpack and put it in front of you, you don’t look comfortable.” And once I started doing that, I realized “Oh yeah, this is clearly worth it.”
By contrast, with the mask example, it just wouldn’t make sense to assume that the thought of not wearing the mask (now that requirements have long been lifted) had never occurred to the other person. Therefore, I don’t buy that people are trying to be helpful. Instead, they’re disrespectful for giving “advice” (from the position of being a literal stranger!) that the other person must have already considered and decided against. That’s implicitly judging someone to be bad at deciding what’s good for them, which is why I think “imposing your views on others” is accurate. In particular, it’s something like “imposing your typical mind fallacy on others.”