Boy, I sure wouldn’t want to date a person like this (your girlfriend-at-the-time).
Human beings are complex creatures, and the decision to date a person involves weighing up the different elements that make up that complexity. At the risk of sounding presumptuous, I’d say that in your current state of almost total ignorance about the physical and psychological traits of Chris’s ex girlfriend, you are simply not in a position to know whether or not you’d want to date her. (Perhaps a focusing illusion—”nothing in life is as important as you think it is, while you are thinking about it”—was involved in causing you to believe otherwise.)
ETA: After reading the replies below, I realize I had misinterpreted Said’s comment above as making an all-things-considered claim, when it fact the claim was supposed to be subject to a ceteris paribus clause.
I’d say that in your current state of almost total ignorance about the physical and psychological traits of Chris’s ex girlfriend, you are simply not in a position to know whether or not you’d want to date her.
It seems this objection could largely be ameliorated by the inclusion of a ceteris paribus clause. Or, given the way you phrased it, perhaps a measure of how just how many units on the Craziness/Hotness scale the behavioural pattern moves her.
EDIT to remove references to mythical three headed guardians of hades.
Yeah, it seems I misunderstood the original comment.
To be fair on your reply the original comment is worded rather strongly and without care for precision. As such your reply is valid even if slightly less charitable than it could have been.
So, essentially, this is: “yeah, sure, my boyfriend/girlfriend has this horrible aspect of their personality, but they were otherwise a good person / the sex was great / whatever”.
Ok. Sure. If your criticism would be obviated by the addition of a ceteris paribus clause to my comment, then consider it added.
You can say that about almost any undesirable personality trait, though. That doesn’t make said trait any more desirable. Many things can be very undesirable without being hard dealbreakers (especially if discovered after you’re already involved with the person). All else being equal, though, I would certainly prefer dating a person without the trait in question, than with.
Human beings are complex creatures, and the decision to date a person involves weighing up the different elements that make up that complexity. At the risk of sounding presumptuous, I’d say that in your current state of almost total ignorance about the physical and psychological traits of Chris’s ex girlfriend, you are simply not in a position to know whether or not you’d want to date her. (Perhaps a focusing illusion—”nothing in life is as important as you think it is, while you are thinking about it”—was involved in causing you to believe otherwise.)
ETA: After reading the replies below, I realize I had misinterpreted Said’s comment above as making an all-things-considered claim, when it fact the claim was supposed to be subject to a ceteris paribus clause.
It seems this objection could largely be ameliorated by the inclusion of a ceteris paribus clause. Or, given the way you phrased it, perhaps a measure of how just how many units on the Craziness/Hotness scale the behavioural pattern moves her.
EDIT to remove references to mythical three headed guardians of hades.
Yeah, it seems I misunderstood the original comment.
To be fair on your reply the original comment is worded rather strongly and without care for precision. As such your reply is valid even if slightly less charitable than it could have been.
I’m pretty sure I got it wrong too.
So, essentially, this is: “yeah, sure, my boyfriend/girlfriend has this horrible aspect of their personality, but they were otherwise a good person / the sex was great / whatever”.
Ok. Sure. If your criticism would be obviated by the addition of a ceteris paribus clause to my comment, then consider it added.
You can say that about almost any undesirable personality trait, though. That doesn’t make said trait any more desirable. Many things can be very undesirable without being hard dealbreakers (especially if discovered after you’re already involved with the person). All else being equal, though, I would certainly prefer dating a person without the trait in question, than with.