This reminds me of something Mark Horstman (I think) said, that people are entitled to honest answers to questions to which they are entitled an answer. He was using it in a workplace context, for example that if one’s boss asks about one’s sex life it’s okay to lie, because she is not entitled to an answer thus she is not entitled to an honest answer. Good post.
I think an important additional concept being invoked in the above example is that the person you are lying to has social power over you. While generally abiding by a wizard’s code of speaking the literal truth, I consider there to be a blanket moral exemption on lying to the government. It is not always pragmatically wise to lie to a government official, but in a moral sense the option is at your discretion.
For example, when the TSA asks you if anything in your luggage could be used as a weapon, you just lie.
Certain interactions with the government (assuming you are behaving peacefully) seem like a special case of dealing with an adversarial or exploitative agent. When an agent has social power over you, they might easily be able to harm or inconvenience you if you answer some questions truthfully, whereas it would be hard for you to harm them if you lied. Telling the truth in that case hurts you, but lying harms nobody (aside from foiling the exploitative plans of the other agent, which doesn’t really count).
A more mundane example would be if a website form asks you for more personal information than it needs, and requires this information. For instance, let’s say the website asks for your phone number or address when there is suspiciously no reason why they should need to call you or ship you anything. If you fill in a false phone number to be able to submit the form, then you are technically lying to them, but I think it’s justified. Same thing for websites that require you to fill in a name, but where they don’t actually need it (e.g. unlike financial transactions, or social networks that deal with real identities).
The website probably isn’t trying to violate your rights, but it’s trying to profit from your private information, either for marketing to you (which you consider pointless), or selling the information (which is exploitative, and could result in other people intruding into your privacy). Gaining your info will predictably create zero sum or negative sum outcomes. Lying is an appropriate response to exploitation attempts like these.And if they aren’t trying to exploit your private information, or use it to give you a service, then they don’t really need it, so lying doesn’t hurt them at all, and you might as well do it to be safe from spam.
Telling the truth is a good default because human relationships are cooperative or neutral by default. But the ethics of lying are much more complex in adversarial or exploitative situations.
For example, when the TSA asks you if anything in your luggage could be used as a weapon, you just lie.
Most people are neither too dull to imagine or recall from a movie the ways to use ordinary items in their luggage as weapons, nor lying, when they say no…
Or it’s just that “lying” implies an attempt to deceive.
Words are meant to communicate meaning. I wouldn’t consider it lying if someone communicates in a sense that properly answers the meaning of the question, even if the question is clumsily asked.
Likewise, I would consider it lying if someone uses words which are literally true, but does so in a manner meant to deceive the listener.
There’s no time to explain in excruciating detail that TSA wants to hear about, say, handguns that people forget to remove from their luggage, tools such as nail guns, assorted sharp pieces, etc, but not about how you can hit someone on the head with a laptop. And that if it’s here by mistake, a lot of time is saved by you telling about it and them not having to assume that you’re a bad guy trying to conceal it.
And within the limited number of sufficiently short sentences there’s not a single one that exactly describes what is meant. Words have to be used, in lieu of telepathy, such as “weapon” meaning something that is sufficiently weapon-like and effective as a weapon to be a problem.
As much as we need accessibility, there is just no practical way to accommodate for communication related disabilities in a screening line at an airport.
Let’s start with basic definitions: Morality is a general rule that when followed offers a good utilitarian default. Maybe you don’t agree with all of these, but if you don’t agree with any of them, we differ:
-- Applying for welfare benefits when you make $110K per year, certifying you make no money.
Reason: You should not obtain your fellow citizens’ money via fraud.
-- “Officer Friendly, that man right there, the weird white guy, robbed/assaulted/(fill in unpleasant crime here) me..”
Reason: It is not nice to try to get people imprisoned for crimes they did not commit.
-- “Yes it is my testimony that Steve Infanticider was with me all night, and not killing babies. So you shouldn’t keep him in custody, your honor.”
Reason: Even if you dislike the criminal justice system, it seems like some respect is warranted.
-- “No, SEC investigators, I, Bernie Madoff, have a totally real way of making exactly 1.5% a month, every month, in perpetuity.”
Reason: You shouldn’t compound prior harm to your fellow humans.
-- “I suffer no sudden blackouts, Department of Motor Vehicles.”
Reason: You should not endanger your fellow drivers.
That was five off the top of my head. This is in response to SaidAchmiz, because I still think it’s possible that Eliezer meant something different than I interpreted, though I don’t understand it. I also think that in the U.S. you shouldn’t lie on your taxes, lie to get on a jury with the purpose of nullifying, lie about bank robberies you witness, lie about your qualifications to build the bridge, lie about the materials you intend to use to build the bridge, lie about the need for construction change orders, lie about the number of hours worked… you get the picture.
I understand that some disagree. I also understand that if you live in North Korea, the rules are different. But I think a blanket moral rule that lying to the government has only one flaw—you might get caught or it might not work—is a terrible moral rule.
Because the government has power over you, you get no moral demerits for lying to them? Nuh-uh.
Morality is a general rule that when followed offers a good utilitarian default.
I’m not entirely sure what “a good utilitarian default” means, but I suspect I disagree, since (I strongly suspect) I am not a utilitarian.
-- Applying for welfare benefits when you make $110K per year, certifying you make no money. Reason: You should not obtain your fellow citizens’ money via fraud.
It’s not clear to me that deserving or needing your fellow citizens’ money is what entitles you to their money (assuming anything does), so I don’t think I entirely agree. This is one of those cases where it feels to me like I’d be doing something wrong, but trying to pin down exactly what that something is, is difficult.
-- “Officer Friendly, that man right there, the weird white guy, robbed/assaulted/(fill in unpleasant crime here) me..” Reason: It is not nice to try to get people imprisoned for crimes they did not commit.
“not nice” is quite an understatement, so yes, I agree.
-- “Yes it is my testimony that Steve Infanticider was with me all night, and not killing babies. So you shouldn’t keep him in custody, your honor.” Reason: Even if you dislike the criminal justice system, it seems like some respect is warranted.
Why is some respect warranted? What warrants it?
-- “No, SEC investigators, I, Bernie Madoff, have a totally real way of making exactly 1.5% a month, every month, in perpetuity.” Reason: You shouldn’t compound prior harm to your fellow humans.
I neither understand finance well enough to grasp this situation, nor do I have any idea what “compound prior harm” means, so I can’t comment on this one.
-- “I suffer no sudden blackouts, Department of Motor Vehicles.” Reason: You should not endanger your fellow drivers.
Agreed.
It seems like the pattern so far is: lying to the government is clearly bad when it would clearly cause harm to your fellow humans. Otherwise, the situation is much more murky. And I think that’s consistent with the way I interpreted Eliezer’s comment, which was something to this effect:
“There’s nothing inherently wrong with lying to the government, per se (the way there might be with lying to a person, regardless of whether your lie harmed them directly and tangibly); however, lying to the government may well have other consequences, which are themselves bad, making the lie immoral on those grounds.”
That is, I don’t think Eliezer was saying that if you lie to the government, that somehow automatically counterbalances any and all negative consequences of that act merely because the act qualifies, among other things, as a lie to the government.
Let’s see if we can’t apply this principle to the rest of your examples:
I also think that in the U.S. you shouldn’t lie on your taxes
I would certainly never attach my name to any suggestion that I endorse lying to the IRS.
lie to get on a jury with the purpose of nullifying
This seems fine to me.
lie about bank robberies you witness
Depends a whole lot on the circumstances. I can’t make a blanket comment here.
lie about your qualifications to build the bridge, lie about the materials you intend to use to build the bridge, lie about the need for construction change orders
Such lies might very well harm people, and so are bad on those grounds.
lie about the number of hours worked...
This does seem bad for rule-consequentialist reasons.
Because the government has power over you, you get no moral demerits for lying to them? Nuh-uh.
Seems reasonable to me, actually. You might get moral demerits for the consequences of your lie (insofar as the untruth might harm actual humans), but lying to the government is not wrong in itself.
I also think that in the U.S. you shouldn’t lie on your taxes
I would certainly never attach my name to any suggestion that I endorse lying to the IRS.
This example particularly amuses me, since this is the first year in a while where I won’t have to lie on my federal tax return about my marital status, and I’m really happy about that.
No doubt! I do wonder what JRMayne would say about cases like yours, though. To me it seems obvious that you did nothing wrong in those previous years.
(nods) I think even by the government’s standards, I didn’t actually do anything wrong. Come to that, I’m not sure I was even lying, technically speaking, as I’m not sure if filing single-head-of-household is technically asserting that I’m unmarried in the first place. It just felt like it.
Assuming it is asserting that you’re not married, it’s asserting that you’re not married by the Federal tax definition. You weren’t, so it’s not a lie.
I neither understand finance well enough to grasp this situation, nor do I have any idea what “compound prior harm” means, so I can’t comment on this one.
Bernie Madoff is a stockbroker who ran a famous Ponzi scheme that came to light a few years ago, at the height of the financial crisis. Judging from the Wikipedia page, the fraud wasn’t a terribly complicated one: basically, he was taking investors’ money and hanging onto it rather than investing it, while fabricating (unusually consistent) paper investment returns for his clients and paying them out of pocket if they ever wanted to cash out.
Yes, I know who Bernie Madoff is, I’m just not clear on what are the implications of the quoted statement to the government. What does it mean? How was it false? Are there legal obligations to disclose something in such a case? What are they? What are the consequences (practical, not legal) of that lie? Who is harmed by the lie? Who is harmed, on the other hand, by the actual fact which you are lying about? Etc.
I just don’t have anywhere near enough context for any of this.
What does it mean? How was it false? Are there legal obligations to disclose something in such a case? What are they? What are the consequences (practical, not legal) of that lie? Who is harmed by the lie? Who is harmed, on the other hand, by the actual fact which you are lying about?
It means that Madoff was claiming he’d invested his clients’ money at an annual rate of return of… let’s see… a little under 20% (Wikipedia cites 10.5 to 15) when he’d actually had it in the bank at a RoR in the low single digits. Because of that, there would have been an increasingly large gap (probably around 10% annually, compounded over the life of his fund) between the figures he’d cited to his clients and the actual money he’d have available to return to them, and if and when enough of them decided to collect, they’d have found themselves short in proportion to that gap plus whatever Madoff took out for himself (a sum in the millions).
This is straightforward fraud: Madoff promised a service, deliberately failed to deliver, and pocketed compensation for it anyway. The harm done by Madoff extracting compensation is obvious (it’s basically theft); the harm done by him not doing his job is a little more complicated, but also substantial once you take into account opportunity cost. I don’t know the exact legal requirements.
If you don’t mind a bit of followup explanation: where does the lie to the government come into this? Like, clearly Madoff defrauded his clients and that’s terrible, but I’m still not clear on the role of the disclosure to government institutions (or lack thereof). Is it just that the government in this case is the channel by which one disclose information about operations to one’s clients, i.e. the government acting on behalf of the clients? Or is it something else...?
The SEC’s basically acting as an enforcement body and a standards organization in this case. Lying to them allowed Madoff to perpetuate his fraud, and perhaps more importantly to legitimize it; he wouldn’t likely have been able to manage billions of dollars if he’d been operating outside the regulatory framework. I’m not sure I’d call that intrinsically immoral, even with my deontology emulator on, but in this context I think I’d be comfortable saying that it acted to exacerbate the situation.
It looks like he’d tried to stay out of their sights as much as possible, though. Judging from Wikipedia, most of the investigation here was carried out by his competitors.
This seems like a good heuristic to cover my “nosy relatives” example, as well as many others, and fits my moral intuitions. Good work, Mark Horstman (or whoever)!
Do you think it fits the girlfriend case in the OP? I mean, do you think you are wronging your partner if, when they press you for an assessment of their performance, you lie to spare their feelings? (I agree with you that they’d be wrong to then get upset of you respond honestly and negatively, but that’s a different question.) Are you wronging your partner even if you know you are fulfilling their preferences by lying? (or does that disentitle them to an answer?)
Do you think it fits the girlfriend case in the OP?
I do not. I think you are entitled to the truth about your partner’s opinion of things that are important to you. Your partner’s, note; perhaps also your close friends’; not anyone’s.
I mean, do you think you are wronging your partner if, when they press you for an assessment of their performance, you lie to spare their feelings?
I would feel wronged, if I was said partner. I think that if you’re in a relationship with a person who values truth, then yes, you are wronging them by withholding it to spare their feelings. If your partner is someone who does not value truth, then, I think, you are not wronging them by lying to spare their feelings. I’m not sure about this. To me, it is a moot point; since I’ve noted, I would never want to be with such a person.
Are you wronging your partner even if you know you are fulfilling their preferences by lying? (or does that disentitle them to an answer?)
The question of whether they are entitled to the truth is not actually relevant, as they are not asking for the truth in such a situation; they are asking for something else (validation? support? I don’t know).
Yes. There are also questions which interviewers are legally prohibited from asking during job interviews, which probably have good moral reasons behind them, not just legal ones.
In my recent comments, I’ve been developing the concept of a “right to information,” or “undeserving questions.”
That seems right to me, though we should probably say something about what you’re then allowed to say. You can’t lie to your nosy (monamorous) boss and say “Great! I have sex with your partner all the time.” Yet if you are sleeping with your boss’ partner, maybe it’s not quite right to lie. Is she entitled to an answer in that case?
This reminds me of something Mark Horstman (I think) said, that people are entitled to honest answers to questions to which they are entitled an answer. He was using it in a workplace context, for example that if one’s boss asks about one’s sex life it’s okay to lie, because she is not entitled to an answer thus she is not entitled to an honest answer. Good post.
I think an important additional concept being invoked in the above example is that the person you are lying to has social power over you. While generally abiding by a wizard’s code of speaking the literal truth, I consider there to be a blanket moral exemption on lying to the government. It is not always pragmatically wise to lie to a government official, but in a moral sense the option is at your discretion.
For example, when the TSA asks you if anything in your luggage could be used as a weapon, you just lie.
Certain interactions with the government (assuming you are behaving peacefully) seem like a special case of dealing with an adversarial or exploitative agent. When an agent has social power over you, they might easily be able to harm or inconvenience you if you answer some questions truthfully, whereas it would be hard for you to harm them if you lied. Telling the truth in that case hurts you, but lying harms nobody (aside from foiling the exploitative plans of the other agent, which doesn’t really count).
A more mundane example would be if a website form asks you for more personal information than it needs, and requires this information. For instance, let’s say the website asks for your phone number or address when there is suspiciously no reason why they should need to call you or ship you anything. If you fill in a false phone number to be able to submit the form, then you are technically lying to them, but I think it’s justified. Same thing for websites that require you to fill in a name, but where they don’t actually need it (e.g. unlike financial transactions, or social networks that deal with real identities).
The website probably isn’t trying to violate your rights, but it’s trying to profit from your private information, either for marketing to you (which you consider pointless), or selling the information (which is exploitative, and could result in other people intruding into your privacy). Gaining your info will predictably create zero sum or negative sum outcomes. Lying is an appropriate response to exploitation attempts like these.And if they aren’t trying to exploit your private information, or use it to give you a service, then they don’t really need it, so lying doesn’t hurt them at all, and you might as well do it to be safe from spam.
Telling the truth is a good default because human relationships are cooperative or neutral by default. But the ethics of lying are much more complex in adversarial or exploitative situations.
Most people are neither too dull to imagine or recall from a movie the ways to use ordinary items in their luggage as weapons, nor lying, when they say no…
Either you have included an unintended negative, or you are saying that nothing in most people’s luggage could be used as a weapon.
Or it’s just that “lying” implies an attempt to deceive.
Words are meant to communicate meaning. I wouldn’t consider it lying if someone communicates in a sense that properly answers the meaning of the question, even if the question is clumsily asked.
Likewise, I would consider it lying if someone uses words which are literally true, but does so in a manner meant to deceive the listener.
There’s no time to explain in excruciating detail that TSA wants to hear about, say, handguns that people forget to remove from their luggage, tools such as nail guns, assorted sharp pieces, etc, but not about how you can hit someone on the head with a laptop. And that if it’s here by mistake, a lot of time is saved by you telling about it and them not having to assume that you’re a bad guy trying to conceal it.
And within the limited number of sufficiently short sentences there’s not a single one that exactly describes what is meant. Words have to be used, in lieu of telepathy, such as “weapon” meaning something that is sufficiently weapon-like and effective as a weapon to be a problem.
As much as we need accessibility, there is just no practical way to accommodate for communication related disabilities in a screening line at an airport.
Eliezer would quote the relevant HPMoR scene, were he trying to be honest.
Wait, what?
You’re saying it″s never morally wrong to lie to the government? That the only possible flaw is ineffectiveness?
Either I am misreading this, you have not considered this fully, or one of us is wrong on morality.
I think there are many obvious cases in which in a moral sense, you cannot lie to the government.
Example, please?
Let’s start with basic definitions: Morality is a general rule that when followed offers a good utilitarian default. Maybe you don’t agree with all of these, but if you don’t agree with any of them, we differ:
-- Applying for welfare benefits when you make $110K per year, certifying you make no money.
Reason: You should not obtain your fellow citizens’ money via fraud.
-- “Officer Friendly, that man right there, the weird white guy, robbed/assaulted/(fill in unpleasant crime here) me..”
Reason: It is not nice to try to get people imprisoned for crimes they did not commit.
-- “Yes it is my testimony that Steve Infanticider was with me all night, and not killing babies. So you shouldn’t keep him in custody, your honor.”
Reason: Even if you dislike the criminal justice system, it seems like some respect is warranted.
-- “No, SEC investigators, I, Bernie Madoff, have a totally real way of making exactly 1.5% a month, every month, in perpetuity.”
Reason: You shouldn’t compound prior harm to your fellow humans.
-- “I suffer no sudden blackouts, Department of Motor Vehicles.”
Reason: You should not endanger your fellow drivers.
That was five off the top of my head. This is in response to SaidAchmiz, because I still think it’s possible that Eliezer meant something different than I interpreted, though I don’t understand it. I also think that in the U.S. you shouldn’t lie on your taxes, lie to get on a jury with the purpose of nullifying, lie about bank robberies you witness, lie about your qualifications to build the bridge, lie about the materials you intend to use to build the bridge, lie about the need for construction change orders, lie about the number of hours worked… you get the picture.
I understand that some disagree. I also understand that if you live in North Korea, the rules are different. But I think a blanket moral rule that lying to the government has only one flaw—you might get caught or it might not work—is a terrible moral rule.
Because the government has power over you, you get no moral demerits for lying to them? Nuh-uh.
I’m not entirely sure what “a good utilitarian default” means, but I suspect I disagree, since (I strongly suspect) I am not a utilitarian.
It’s not clear to me that deserving or needing your fellow citizens’ money is what entitles you to their money (assuming anything does), so I don’t think I entirely agree. This is one of those cases where it feels to me like I’d be doing something wrong, but trying to pin down exactly what that something is, is difficult.
“not nice” is quite an understatement, so yes, I agree.
Why is some respect warranted? What warrants it?
I neither understand finance well enough to grasp this situation, nor do I have any idea what “compound prior harm” means, so I can’t comment on this one.
Agreed.
It seems like the pattern so far is: lying to the government is clearly bad when it would clearly cause harm to your fellow humans. Otherwise, the situation is much more murky. And I think that’s consistent with the way I interpreted Eliezer’s comment, which was something to this effect:
“There’s nothing inherently wrong with lying to the government, per se (the way there might be with lying to a person, regardless of whether your lie harmed them directly and tangibly); however, lying to the government may well have other consequences, which are themselves bad, making the lie immoral on those grounds.”
That is, I don’t think Eliezer was saying that if you lie to the government, that somehow automatically counterbalances any and all negative consequences of that act merely because the act qualifies, among other things, as a lie to the government.
Let’s see if we can’t apply this principle to the rest of your examples:
I would certainly never attach my name to any suggestion that I endorse lying to the IRS.
This seems fine to me.
Depends a whole lot on the circumstances. I can’t make a blanket comment here.
Such lies might very well harm people, and so are bad on those grounds.
This does seem bad for rule-consequentialist reasons.
Seems reasonable to me, actually. You might get moral demerits for the consequences of your lie (insofar as the untruth might harm actual humans), but lying to the government is not wrong in itself.
This example particularly amuses me, since this is the first year in a while where I won’t have to lie on my federal tax return about my marital status, and I’m really happy about that.
That’s not lying. To see this try tabooing “marital status”.
No doubt! I do wonder what JRMayne would say about cases like yours, though. To me it seems obvious that you did nothing wrong in those previous years.
(nods) I think even by the government’s standards, I didn’t actually do anything wrong. Come to that, I’m not sure I was even lying, technically speaking, as I’m not sure if filing single-head-of-household is technically asserting that I’m unmarried in the first place. It just felt like it.
Assuming it is asserting that you’re not married, it’s asserting that you’re not married by the Federal tax definition. You weren’t, so it’s not a lie.
Bernie Madoff is a stockbroker who ran a famous Ponzi scheme that came to light a few years ago, at the height of the financial crisis. Judging from the Wikipedia page, the fraud wasn’t a terribly complicated one: basically, he was taking investors’ money and hanging onto it rather than investing it, while fabricating (unusually consistent) paper investment returns for his clients and paying them out of pocket if they ever wanted to cash out.
Yes, I know who Bernie Madoff is, I’m just not clear on what are the implications of the quoted statement to the government. What does it mean? How was it false? Are there legal obligations to disclose something in such a case? What are they? What are the consequences (practical, not legal) of that lie? Who is harmed by the lie? Who is harmed, on the other hand, by the actual fact which you are lying about? Etc.
I just don’t have anywhere near enough context for any of this.
It means that Madoff was claiming he’d invested his clients’ money at an annual rate of return of… let’s see… a little under 20% (Wikipedia cites 10.5 to 15) when he’d actually had it in the bank at a RoR in the low single digits. Because of that, there would have been an increasingly large gap (probably around 10% annually, compounded over the life of his fund) between the figures he’d cited to his clients and the actual money he’d have available to return to them, and if and when enough of them decided to collect, they’d have found themselves short in proportion to that gap plus whatever Madoff took out for himself (a sum in the millions).
This is straightforward fraud: Madoff promised a service, deliberately failed to deliver, and pocketed compensation for it anyway. The harm done by Madoff extracting compensation is obvious (it’s basically theft); the harm done by him not doing his job is a little more complicated, but also substantial once you take into account opportunity cost. I don’t know the exact legal requirements.
Ok, thanks. That makes sense.
If you don’t mind a bit of followup explanation: where does the lie to the government come into this? Like, clearly Madoff defrauded his clients and that’s terrible, but I’m still not clear on the role of the disclosure to government institutions (or lack thereof). Is it just that the government in this case is the channel by which one disclose information about operations to one’s clients, i.e. the government acting on behalf of the clients? Or is it something else...?
The SEC’s basically acting as an enforcement body and a standards organization in this case. Lying to them allowed Madoff to perpetuate his fraud, and perhaps more importantly to legitimize it; he wouldn’t likely have been able to manage billions of dollars if he’d been operating outside the regulatory framework. I’m not sure I’d call that intrinsically immoral, even with my deontology emulator on, but in this context I think I’d be comfortable saying that it acted to exacerbate the situation.
It looks like he’d tried to stay out of their sights as much as possible, though. Judging from Wikipedia, most of the investigation here was carried out by his competitors.
Understood. Yes, given this explanation I think I agree that lying to the SEC was immoral in this case.
This seems like a good heuristic to cover my “nosy relatives” example, as well as many others, and fits my moral intuitions. Good work, Mark Horstman (or whoever)!
Do you think it fits the girlfriend case in the OP? I mean, do you think you are wronging your partner if, when they press you for an assessment of their performance, you lie to spare their feelings? (I agree with you that they’d be wrong to then get upset of you respond honestly and negatively, but that’s a different question.) Are you wronging your partner even if you know you are fulfilling their preferences by lying? (or does that disentitle them to an answer?)
I do not. I think you are entitled to the truth about your partner’s opinion of things that are important to you. Your partner’s, note; perhaps also your close friends’; not anyone’s.
I would feel wronged, if I was said partner. I think that if you’re in a relationship with a person who values truth, then yes, you are wronging them by withholding it to spare their feelings. If your partner is someone who does not value truth, then, I think, you are not wronging them by lying to spare their feelings. I’m not sure about this. To me, it is a moot point; since I’ve noted, I would never want to be with such a person.
The question of whether they are entitled to the truth is not actually relevant, as they are not asking for the truth in such a situation; they are asking for something else (validation? support? I don’t know).
Yes. There are also questions which interviewers are legally prohibited from asking during job interviews, which probably have good moral reasons behind them, not just legal ones.
In my recent comments, I’ve been developing the concept of a “right to information,” or “undeserving questions.”
That seems right to me, though we should probably say something about what you’re then allowed to say. You can’t lie to your nosy (monamorous) boss and say “Great! I have sex with your partner all the time.” Yet if you are sleeping with your boss’ partner, maybe it’s not quite right to lie. Is she entitled to an answer in that case?
I think your case is different from the OP’s:
means that you are already doing something much more immoral and lying is not your biggest moral issue.