Definitely covered by “alternatively, evil”. Especially when considering a two-person relationship!
My problem with calling these behaviors “evil” is that they don’t have to be consciously decided upon—they’re just ways that happened to keep our ancestors alive in brutal political environments. Cognitive biases and natural political tendencies may be tragic, but calling them “evil” implies a level of culpability that I think isn’t really warranted.
The choice of words was a bit tongue-in-cheek, but enforcing your power over others in this way is definitely not a nice thing to do. And holding people responsible for such disingenuous behaviour only when they consciously deliberate and decide on it doesn’t seem to be very useful to me. People rarely consciously deliberate and decide upon being assholes. (And if someone does what you described in a two-person relationship, I am very inclined to call them an asshole, at least in my head.)
I wonder if people who have a disadvantaged native social circuitry are more likely to judge other people because their success in social situations requires more conscious deliberation and thus they’re expecting more of it from others.
I don’t know; I’m something of a counterexample to that, and I tend to not associate with other socially disadvantaged people, so I don’t have a good reference class to build examples from.
My problem with calling these behaviors “evil” is that they don’t have to be consciously decided upon—they’re just ways that happened to keep our ancestors alive in brutal political environments. Cognitive biases and natural political tendencies may be tragic, but calling them “evil” implies a level of culpability that I think isn’t really warranted.
The choice of words was a bit tongue-in-cheek, but enforcing your power over others in this way is definitely not a nice thing to do. And holding people responsible for such disingenuous behaviour only when they consciously deliberate and decide on it doesn’t seem to be very useful to me. People rarely consciously deliberate and decide upon being assholes. (And if someone does what you described in a two-person relationship, I am very inclined to call them an asshole, at least in my head.)
I wonder if people who have a disadvantaged native social circuitry are more likely to judge other people because their success in social situations requires more conscious deliberation and thus they’re expecting more of it from others.
I don’t know; I’m something of a counterexample to that, and I tend to not associate with other socially disadvantaged people, so I don’t have a good reference class to build examples from.