Yes, that’s exactly what “tapping out” means. Even dropping win/lose from the metaphor, the connotation is that the discussion is being abandoned because it’s too painful. I’d rather describe it as “bowing out” if someone decides that it’s wisest not to waste time or needlessly inflame another.
Well, the LessWrong wiki specifically says that “tapping out doesn’t mean accepting defeat,” which I think would generally be considered false in other contexts. If you’re agreeing with this, sorry for belaboring the point, but I’m not entirely sure how to parse your post.
“Bowing out” definitely seems like an appropriate replacement.
Well, the LessWrong wiki specifically says that “tapping out doesn’t mean accepting defeat,” which I think would generally be considered false in other contexts.
That’s a good point. I hadn’t paid much attention to the origin of the phrase (and haven’t used it), but that is exactly what we do to concede when doing Jiu-Jitsu.
“Bowing out” definitely seems like an appropriate replacement.
I didn’t think the connotations to that one were any less.
I don’t think any bit of jargon is going to hide the fact that it’s a little humiliating to leave a discussion having failed to move your interlocutor. Someone who isn’t humiliated at having laid out all their reasons to no effect is probably arguing in bad faith.
I’m not so sure. If I have laid out all my reasons to no effect, that could simply mean my opponent is unusually obstinate rather than that my arguments are unusually poor.
Fair enough, but we should recognize how powerfully motivated we are to think our intractable opponent is obstinate rather than reasonably unconvinced.
“Having more free time” and “being more stubborn” shouldn’t win arguments, but they do in real life where arguments are mostly about status, so we translate the status dynamics online.
(As for me, the main reason I do that is when I suspect I am being mind-killed and as a result a large fraction of what I would be going to say if I continued the discussion would be bullshit.)
Yes, that’s exactly what “tapping out” means. Even dropping win/lose from the metaphor, the connotation is that the discussion is being abandoned because it’s too painful. I’d rather describe it as “bowing out” if someone decides that it’s wisest not to waste time or needlessly inflame another.
Well, the LessWrong wiki specifically says that “tapping out doesn’t mean accepting defeat,” which I think would generally be considered false in other contexts. If you’re agreeing with this, sorry for belaboring the point, but I’m not entirely sure how to parse your post.
“Bowing out” definitely seems like an appropriate replacement.
That’s a good point. I hadn’t paid much attention to the origin of the phrase (and haven’t used it), but that is exactly what we do to concede when doing Jiu-Jitsu.
I didn’t think the connotations to that one were any less.
Perhaps “stepping out,” then?
I don’t think any bit of jargon is going to hide the fact that it’s a little humiliating to leave a discussion having failed to move your interlocutor. Someone who isn’t humiliated at having laid out all their reasons to no effect is probably arguing in bad faith.
I’m not so sure. If I have laid out all my reasons to no effect, that could simply mean my opponent is unusually obstinate rather than that my arguments are unusually poor.
Fair enough, but we should recognize how powerfully motivated we are to think our intractable opponent is obstinate rather than reasonably unconvinced.
“Having more free time” and “being more stubborn” shouldn’t win arguments, but they do in real life where arguments are mostly about status, so we translate the status dynamics online.
Yeah. I agree with you. Wiki needs correction (although sometimes technically imprecise language can adjust attitudes better than precision).
(As for me, the main reason I do that is when I suspect I am being mind-killed and as a result a large fraction of what I would be going to say if I continued the discussion would be bullshit.)