It’s not difficult to deduce what kind of a response to the implication question is a socially acceptable one. I might also have no implication. Even if my implication was benign I wouldn’t give you the answer. I don’t want to reward coercion or biasing a conversation before it’s even started. I don’t know why people pretend to expect honest answers to such questioning.
If you expect everyone to be totally biased in the conversation then instead of picking the right soldiers for the battle I would suggest concluding that the topic is simply too political to discuss in a rational manner.
If you browbeat people for making observations on issues that might need fixing you’re limiting your options for doing any fixing.
It’s not difficult to deduce what kind of a response to the implication question is a socially acceptable one.
If you are saying that he can figure out whether lying or telling the truth about his implication is socially acceptable, sure.
The real problem is that he already had an implication, but he’s using the fact that it’s an implication to maintain plausible deniability by not coming out and saying it. Saying it may be socially unacceptable, but that’s because making the implication is also socially unacceptable.
It seems to me you’ve already decided what he was trying to imply. It might not be wise to do that based on such a simple remark.
If he brought it up to point out there should be more women on the list, you’ve likely just lost an ally. You’ve pretty much also lost the opportunity to make that point to anyone who noticed your prejudice.
It’s not difficult to deduce what kind of a response to the implication question is a socially acceptable one. I might also have no implication. Even if my implication was benign I wouldn’t give you the answer. I don’t want to reward coercion or biasing a conversation before it’s even started. I don’t know why people pretend to expect honest answers to such questioning.
If you expect everyone to be totally biased in the conversation then instead of picking the right soldiers for the battle I would suggest concluding that the topic is simply too political to discuss in a rational manner.
If you browbeat people for making observations on issues that might need fixing you’re limiting your options for doing any fixing.
If you are saying that he can figure out whether lying or telling the truth about his implication is socially acceptable, sure.
The real problem is that he already had an implication, but he’s using the fact that it’s an implication to maintain plausible deniability by not coming out and saying it. Saying it may be socially unacceptable, but that’s because making the implication is also socially unacceptable.
It seems to me you’ve already decided what he was trying to imply. It might not be wise to do that based on such a simple remark.
If he brought it up to point out there should be more women on the list, you’ve likely just lost an ally. You’ve pretty much also lost the opportunity to make that point to anyone who noticed your prejudice.