I said it would make it harder for the woman to get dates with men, but is that really in doubt? Do you need me to find statistics showing that (American) men in general rate women who don’t shave their legs as less attractive? And I was using it as an example of something that shouldn’t matter, but does.
You don’t get to say that because 90% of people who used it in the context you did would be using it seriously, and because accusing someone of being a bad person for being sexist is more of a trigger point than accusing someone of having a bad debate.
When you give a list of three attributes, people tend assume the salient features are common for all three or different for all three. The attributes you gave were obese, poor hygiene, and unshaved. Two of these, obese and poor hygiene, are problematic for reasons other than simple lack of social acceptance, and people thus feel more confident calling them “gross”—for which they were also primed by your use of the term in it’s other sense.
As I see it: no, you didn’t say it, but I completely understand why they heard it.
For what it is worth I appreciated the tongue in cheek nature of your call and only object to the ‘being wrong about what what Yvain said’ part, not the ‘bad’ part. I can’t help you in finding an explanation on how you managed to get to −4. Perhaps you could edit that one part out and see if you get back up to 0? People often seem to approve of retraction-edits.
Again, where did I say that it was “gross”?
I said it would make it harder for the woman to get dates with men, but is that really in doubt? Do you need me to find statistics showing that (American) men in general rate women who don’t shave their legs as less attractive? And I was using it as an example of something that shouldn’t matter, but does.
You don’t get to say that because 90% of people who used it in the context you did would be using it seriously, and because accusing someone of being a bad person for being sexist is more of a trigger point than accusing someone of having a bad debate.
When you give a list of three attributes, people tend assume the salient features are common for all three or different for all three. The attributes you gave were obese, poor hygiene, and unshaved. Two of these, obese and poor hygiene, are problematic for reasons other than simple lack of social acceptance, and people thus feel more confident calling them “gross”—for which they were also primed by your use of the term in it’s other sense.
As I see it: no, you didn’t say it, but I completely understand why they heard it.
Uh. Okay. I guess I far underestimated the proportion of people who would seriously call you a bad person on LW. My bad.
For what it is worth I appreciated the tongue in cheek nature of your call and only object to the ‘being wrong about what what Yvain said’ part, not the ‘bad’ part. I can’t help you in finding an explanation on how you managed to get to −4. Perhaps you could edit that one part out and see if you get back up to 0? People often seem to approve of retraction-edits.
Oh, fine. Maybe I’m just oversensitive. Downvote revoked.