Granted there is some default relationship styles were you try to be on the same page for major issues and there is selectivity what those issues are. But whether there is a need to bring up a topic once a disagreement is discovered seems that it could depend on variables. Some people could even find discussing disagreements to be empowering and having a stance where disagreement means relationship is drained until disagremeent is resolved could be seen as a character flaw.
Oh, definitely. There are plenty of topics I bring up with my friends specifically because we disagree and it’s entertaining for all of us. The key is that it doesn’t generalize, and I can’t replicate it with people that don’t “fit” my style well enough and are in danger of joining a cult (or cult-like subculture) to get the validation they need.
The link was about a flat earther being drawn to likeminded sites/groups because they felt alienated in other circles. I submit that this is common, and also that your advice (“be nicer to those people”) is not likely to work, because there’s a good number of them that I just don’t like enough to give them sufficient friendship to meet their needs. I don’t bully them, but I can’t really support them as much as they want/need.
Granted there is some default relationship styles were you try to be on the same page for major issues and there is selectivity what those issues are. But whether there is a need to bring up a topic once a disagreement is discovered seems that it could depend on variables. Some people could even find discussing disagreements to be empowering and having a stance where disagreement means relationship is drained until disagremeent is resolved could be seen as a character flaw.
Oh, definitely. There are plenty of topics I bring up with my friends specifically because we disagree and it’s entertaining for all of us. The key is that it doesn’t generalize, and I can’t replicate it with people that don’t “fit” my style well enough and are in danger of joining a cult (or cult-like subculture) to get the validation they need.
The link was about a flat earther being drawn to likeminded sites/groups because they felt alienated in other circles. I submit that this is common, and also that your advice (“be nicer to those people”) is not likely to work, because there’s a good number of them that I just don’t like enough to give them sufficient friendship to meet their needs. I don’t bully them, but I can’t really support them as much as they want/need.