It’s a refusal to participate in ritualized social bonding, and that signals you aren’t willing to relax around other people and don’t consider them to be part of your social in-group. If you’re not drinking, that may also mean you get to keep your guard up while everyone else is saying and doing silly or even forbidden things.
I can’t drink because of my medications, and I always get teased about it. “Come on, just one shot is fine...”
Or it signals that you are comfortable asserting your own values in contradiction to a group. That’s a very positive signal to me, but probably generally negative.
Interesting. I knew people think that way in Japan (I was thinking about asking sixes_and_sevens if they were Japanese), but there, people don’t mind if you actually do silly/forbidden things when you’re drunk (or so I’ve heard).
I probably should drink less myself, and I tend to think of non-drinkers as “sensible people who didn’t like the taste of alcohol when they were teenagers and didn’t give in to social pressure” (like my mother, my sister and my husband).
Mistrust? Why would people mistrust you if you don’t drink?
It’s a refusal to participate in ritualized social bonding, and that signals you aren’t willing to relax around other people and don’t consider them to be part of your social in-group. If you’re not drinking, that may also mean you get to keep your guard up while everyone else is saying and doing silly or even forbidden things.
I can’t drink because of my medications, and I always get teased about it. “Come on, just one shot is fine...”
Or it signals that you are comfortable asserting your own values in contradiction to a group. That’s a very positive signal to me, but probably generally negative.
Or maybe they think that your non-drinking is not a value of yours, but a value of another group that you are choosing over theirs.
Interesting. I knew people think that way in Japan (I was thinking about asking sixes_and_sevens if they were Japanese), but there, people don’t mind if you actually do silly/forbidden things when you’re drunk (or so I’ve heard).
I can’t speak for everybody, but I think this is the reason why I tend to dislike non-drinkers.
Huh, you got a downvote for that? That wasn’t me!
I probably should drink less myself, and I tend to think of non-drinkers as “sensible people who didn’t like the taste of alcohol when they were teenagers and didn’t give in to social pressure” (like my mother, my sister and my husband).