I think a prospective parent should be asking all of the following questions:
Am I—are we—ready to face the challenge?
Will I (we) be happier for having children?
Will the world be a better place for our having children?
If we have children, what will their lives be like?
If you only ask “will I be happier?” then yes, there’s probably something wrong with you. But I don’t think it’s an unreasonable question to ask alongside the others.
I would like to see a probability estimate for “Will the world be a better place for our having children?”, for example, one that’s based on some empirical realities and not on looking upwards and going “Hmmm....”
The outside view is certainly positive on the overall bundle: most humans choose to have children. Starting with that prior and adjustiing for heritability of IQ and social influence, it seems very likely that children of most LW readers will be net positive value.
It’s not what you asked for, but it’s sufficient to base decisions on.
I think a prospective parent should be asking all of the following questions:
Am I—are we—ready to face the challenge?
Will I (we) be happier for having children?
Will the world be a better place for our having children?
If we have children, what will their lives be like?
If you only ask “will I be happier?” then yes, there’s probably something wrong with you. But I don’t think it’s an unreasonable question to ask alongside the others.
The answers to the last three questions, especially if asked about the first child, are “We don’t know”.
Just like the answers to all questions.
The answers to all of them are probability estimates. “don’t know” applies to all decisions, but isn’t a helpful framing.
I would like to see a probability estimate for “Will the world be a better place for our having children?”, for example, one that’s based on some empirical realities and not on looking upwards and going “Hmmm....”
The outside view is certainly positive on the overall bundle: most humans choose to have children. Starting with that prior and adjustiing for heritability of IQ and social influence, it seems very likely that children of most LW readers will be net positive value.
It’s not what you asked for, but it’s sufficient to base decisions on.
That’s just hardwired biological instincts. They have nothing to do with the questions asked.