I think the point is: If you make enemies, do it on purpose, and rudeness is similar. There is a time and a place for it, but be fully aware of what you’re doing. It’s impossible to game something you’re not conscious of let alone game it hard. And hard it shall and should be gamed!
“This seems like an amazing idea and a great presentation. I wonder how we could secure the budgeting and get the team for it, because it seems like it’d be a profitable if we do, and it’d be a shame to miss this opportunity.”
I agree that this is being bend-over-backwards polite to the point of conceding a lot of ground. Maybe it was a great presentation and an amazing idea, if only we had the budget for it. But maybe you don’t think that. In that case, there has to be middle ground; praising the presentation but not the idea, for example, is rhetorically safe since it doesn’t matter that he gave a good presentation. However, I do think this is a legitimate question you should be able to ask directly. I work with non-nerds and would feel very comfortable asking this question directly—and would expect someone to, if I didn’t.
I think the point is: If you make enemies, do it on purpose, and rudeness is similar. There is a time and a place for it, but be fully aware of what you’re doing. It’s impossible to game something you’re not conscious of let alone game it hard. And hard it shall and should be gamed!
I agree that this is being bend-over-backwards polite to the point of conceding a lot of ground. Maybe it was a great presentation and an amazing idea, if only we had the budget for it. But maybe you don’t think that. In that case, there has to be middle ground; praising the presentation but not the idea, for example, is rhetorically safe since it doesn’t matter that he gave a good presentation. However, I do think this is a legitimate question you should be able to ask directly. I work with non-nerds and would feel very comfortable asking this question directly—and would expect someone to, if I didn’t.