The reason I was not so specific is because my two overarching problems are themselves very wide: (1) having less than optimal impulse control resulting in sometimes making poor social decisions without prior thought and control, and (2) not possessing sufficient data on social knowledge/skills to know what to do in a variety of situations.
I am not yet at a stage where I could say exactly what it is that I need to learn, so I am looking for a wide variety of avenues to start down. Once I’ve made a solid start, I will be able to actually see the specific questions.
Well, someone who never learned music surely doesn’t have enough knowledge/skills on what to do in a band, and will perform terribly on stage. Their problems, as you say, are wide. And yet, if such a person goes around asking “where do I start learning music”, I just know that they’re not that into the whole idea. If they were, they would’ve picked up a guitar and be playing already.
Which, as a matter of fact, I have been doing. But when I started learning guitar, I did not already know to ask “what exercises can I do to strengthen my hand so I can play barre chords better”. I started with “where do I begin”, and went from there. As I played more and more, I begun to see the things I needed to know in order to improve. The same follows here.
The reason I was not so specific is because my two overarching problems are themselves very wide: (1) having less than optimal impulse control resulting in sometimes making poor social decisions without prior thought and control, and (2) not possessing sufficient data on social knowledge/skills to know what to do in a variety of situations.
I am not yet at a stage where I could say exactly what it is that I need to learn, so I am looking for a wide variety of avenues to start down. Once I’ve made a solid start, I will be able to actually see the specific questions.
Well, someone who never learned music surely doesn’t have enough knowledge/skills on what to do in a band, and will perform terribly on stage. Their problems, as you say, are wide. And yet, if such a person goes around asking “where do I start learning music”, I just know that they’re not that into the whole idea. If they were, they would’ve picked up a guitar and be playing already.
Which, as a matter of fact, I have been doing. But when I started learning guitar, I did not already know to ask “what exercises can I do to strengthen my hand so I can play barre chords better”. I started with “where do I begin”, and went from there. As I played more and more, I begun to see the things I needed to know in order to improve. The same follows here.
You don’t “know” that they’re not into the whole idea. You assume that and are overconfident.