So you’re saying you have such strong anti-ritual preferences that you assumed people must have been awkwardly attending something they didn’t like in order to fit in? Hm. That makes sense.
I… suppose. Sort of.
Reading the OP made me immediately update to a realization that at least some people really liked this sort of thing; I assumed the other attendees had their own reasons for attending (which may not have just boiled down to peer pressure); I didn’t expect to subsequently learn that a preference for rituals is a) apparently everyone’s reason for coming, and b) much more common in the rationalist community than I thought. My own concerns about consent and social pressure are part of my reaction, though not, as I’ve said, the entirety.
For what it’s worth, I, too, have a pretty strong preference for playing fantasy role-playing games (especially of the tabletop variety), so your analogy hits close to home. I am trying to imagine what it would be like to have a strong “ick” reaction to tabletop RPGs such that I couldn’t understand why anyone would do it and would avoid a group that engaged in this activity, and I think I am succeeding, at least partly. (Of course, what I can’t do is verbalize any reason why I’d have such a reaction, which I definitely can for my objections to rituals.) Putting myself back in my own shoes, my response to such a person would be a lack of comprehension of what it was they found so objectionable; I guess I wouldn’t have much to say in response other than a shrug and “well, RPGs are awesome and we like playing them and it doesn’t hurt anyone”. I surmise from your comment that your response to my feelings about rituals can be summed up similarly?
I… suppose. Sort of.
Reading the OP made me immediately update to a realization that at least some people really liked this sort of thing; I assumed the other attendees had their own reasons for attending (which may not have just boiled down to peer pressure); I didn’t expect to subsequently learn that a preference for rituals is a) apparently everyone’s reason for coming, and b) much more common in the rationalist community than I thought. My own concerns about consent and social pressure are part of my reaction, though not, as I’ve said, the entirety.
For what it’s worth, I, too, have a pretty strong preference for playing fantasy role-playing games (especially of the tabletop variety), so your analogy hits close to home. I am trying to imagine what it would be like to have a strong “ick” reaction to tabletop RPGs such that I couldn’t understand why anyone would do it and would avoid a group that engaged in this activity, and I think I am succeeding, at least partly. (Of course, what I can’t do is verbalize any reason why I’d have such a reaction, which I definitely can for my objections to rituals.) Putting myself back in my own shoes, my response to such a person would be a lack of comprehension of what it was they found so objectionable; I guess I wouldn’t have much to say in response other than a shrug and “well, RPGs are awesome and we like playing them and it doesn’t hurt anyone”. I surmise from your comment that your response to my feelings about rituals can be summed up similarly?