I’m asking a question that I want to know the answer to.
No, you don’t. You want to justify your previous behavior and ensuing results, and justify what you yourself have told us is a lifetime of clashing with supervisors and coworkers over various things and making enemies of them.
I merely observe that is the usual cause for something like your behavior here. I can imagine no other motivation for your attack on me, even if you believe what you say. Even if you are correct in believing I have some emotional motivation, what are the benefits to anybody of pointing it out, creating more interpersonal conflict, and discouraging people from thinking about or answering the question?
Disgust at watching such wasteful behavior? A bit of pity, knowing that one’s problems can be far more obvious to an observer than oneself, and this is just as true about me? Irritation at the status-move implied in going meta with the presumption you were right in every respect?
So far: 2 extremely rude comments, 2 up-votes. 1 polite reply to rude comments, 0 up-votes.
Don’t worry, I’ll toss in some votes and affect that number.
Of course, you knew that posting a summary would inspire someone to vote just because of that summary, as predictably as waving a red flag in front of the proverbial bull. You should consider what made you add in that entirely gratuitous point, in light of my original comment.
… while conveniently ignoring the plethora of evidence to the contrary of his theses. I’ve yet to see e.g. a comment that TheOtherDave can’t politely steelman, to general approval and upvotes—contrary to PhilGoetz’s wild generalisations that appear to be from one example. The most important example—himself. Seeking the failure in some purported general trend before seeking it in one’s own agency is the easy way out—becoming the victim of some Great and General Injustice (tm).
When you’re watching out for a wrong-way driver, yet see most everyone apparently driving the wrong way, maybe it’s time for, um, introspection?
So, now that the fig leaf of relevant content is provided, here are my ramblings for this post.
knowing that one’s problems can be far more obvious to an observer than oneself, and this is just as true about me?
Come one, come all! I can judge you anonymously in ROT13, for a small fee going to a charity of my choice. (Don’t judge me!)
I was tempted to write a rude reply, to use as another datapoint. But this is getting too serious to treat as an experiment.
Before today I had no strong opinion about you, as a person. Yet you appear determined to make me hate you, going out of your way to hurt me and to create a new personal enemy for yourself, for… what? Disgust, pity, irritation… none of these are reasons.
You put a lot of effort into LessWrong, into experimentation, reading, posting, all to try to tweak your ability to act rationally just a little better, to become just a little more optimal. But what’s the point of working so hard to be just a little more rational, when you indulge in such destructive behavior on a whim, or out of cruelty?
Can we not do this?
ADDED: I wish the people downvoting would explain themselves. I’m trying to understand why you’re doing this, and I can’t come up with a model. What are you thinking?
Insulting people is fun. You basically hung your ass out to get spanked. Gwern is being rude but his making fun of you is a lot less “destructive” behavior than your overreaction to it. Treating responses to your comments that are rude as “creating an enemy” is ridiculous, especially in the context of the internet and ESPECIALLY ESPECIALLY in the context of making a post about optimal rudeness.
There’s some large gap between my mindset, and the mindset of the people voting on this thread. I see you’re trying to bridge that gap. But I find your comment, and the response to it, alien, as if you’re speaking some bizarre language where the words are inverted. I understand what you’re saying, but can’t imagine how one could say it and believe it. Insulting people is fun? My attempt to patch things up between me and gwern is destructive? Saying that cruel comments on LessWrong can create enemies is ridiculous? Saying a comment is too rude is ridiculous in a post about optimal rudeness? All these claims are exactly opposite the truth as I see it.
Most of all, the implication that rationality should not govern our most important behavior. You shouldn’t hurt people unless you have a reason to do so. That’s a very low bar for rational (and ethical) behavior, yet somewhere around half LessWrong readers disagree with it?
that fact that you don’t understand this is similarly mindboggling to me.
My attempt to patch things up between me and gwern is destructive?
I read what you said as the opposite of an attempt to patch things up. To me, it seemed like you were deliberately trying to escalate a rude comment into a personal enmity, by reading far too much hatred into it.
You shouldn’t hurt people unless you have a reason to do so.
This is the kind of broad statement that sounds like someone’s a priori self-concieved deontology. It doesn’t have any practical relation to how human interaction generally plays out or is viewed. On the scale of “hurting” someone, Gwern’s insults are somewhere between a punch in the arm and a kick to the nuts. punches to the arm and slaps on the back are WIDELY tolerated and encouraged by our social norms, and so are insults and and verbal put-downs. Unless your point is that we are regularly insanely more cruel than we should be to friends and acquaintances, your reaction to gwern’s moderate escalation is an OVERreaction.
This comment seems to me to strongly indicate you have a big problem understanding humans and should try to deal with it before you attempt to analyze your interactions or anyone’s in a social setting.
What’s a kick in the nuts between friends? We were just horsing around.
But the potential for the illusion of transparency is ridiculous, and such an action smoothly transitions into hazing and/or bullying. Which are also widely tolerated by our social norms, unfortunately, as long as the person being bullied is low-status.
It seems obvious to me that if you slap someone on the back (literally or metaphorically) and they complain, then you should immediately drop all considerations of “insulting people is fun” and stop doing whatever it is you’re doing. Even (especially?) if you think they’re being a baby.
Before today I had no strong opinion about you, as a person. Yet you appear determined to make me hate you, going out of your way to hurt me and to create a new personal enemy for yourself, for… what?
Why did my comment provoke any meaningful reaction from you other than a laugh? For example, “that gwern, thinking he can psychoanalyze me across the Internet! No, my friend, I have problems of course—don’t we all? - but I’m afraid you’re waaaay off-base there! Jolly good try, though.”
(“Somebody remarked: ‘I can tell by my own reaction to it that this book is harmful.’ But let him only wait and perhaps one day he will admit to himself that this same book has done him a great service by bringing out the hidden sickness of his heart and making it visible.”)
Disgust, pity, irritation… none of these are reasons.
Perhaps not for you, although I rather doubt it. Personally, I do many things out of irritation.
You put a lot of effort into LessWrong, into experimentation, reading, posting, all to try to tweak your ability to act rationally just a little better, to become just a little more optimal. But what’s the point of working so hard to be just a little more rational, when you indulge in such destructive behavior on a whim, or out of cruelty?
What is the point of earning any credibility and rationality if one never says or believes anything that would be accepted and believed without the need of any credibility or rationality?
Can we not do this?
Sure. I’ll stop saying mean and apparently too incisive things if you’ll stop cluttering LW with your passive-aggressive BS and re-fighting your past battles and trying to retroactively justify posts that were not received as you wanted.
“What is the point of earning any credibility and rationality if one never says or believes anything that would be accepted and believed without the need of any credibility or rationality?”
So what you’re saying is I shouldn’t trust anything you say?
No, you don’t. You want to justify your previous behavior and ensuing results, and justify what you yourself have told us is a lifetime of clashing with supervisors and coworkers over various things and making enemies of them.
Disgust at watching such wasteful behavior? A bit of pity, knowing that one’s problems can be far more obvious to an observer than oneself, and this is just as true about me? Irritation at the status-move implied in going meta with the presumption you were right in every respect?
Don’t worry, I’ll toss in some votes and affect that number.
Of course, you knew that posting a summary would inspire someone to vote just because of that summary, as predictably as waving a red flag in front of the proverbial bull. You should consider what made you add in that entirely gratuitous point, in light of my original comment.
… while conveniently ignoring the plethora of evidence to the contrary of his theses. I’ve yet to see e.g. a comment that TheOtherDave can’t politely steelman, to general approval and upvotes—contrary to PhilGoetz’s wild generalisations that appear to be from one example. The most important example—himself. Seeking the failure in some purported general trend before seeking it in one’s own agency is the easy way out—becoming the victim of some Great and General Injustice (tm).
When you’re watching out for a wrong-way driver, yet see most everyone apparently driving the wrong way, maybe it’s time for, um, introspection?
So, now that the fig leaf of relevant content is provided, here are my ramblings for this post.
Come one, come all! I can judge you anonymously in ROT13, for a small fee going to a charity of my choice. (Don’t judge me!)
What about the famed froth-at-the-mouth-yet-polite Kawoomba-style?
I’m afraid you’ll need to do better than that. I can get advice for free elsewhere (it’s a commodity these days), what’s your value-added here?
Kawoomba? I’m afraid I’ve never heard of him. Perhaps it was a more elegant style for a more civilized age.
I was tempted to write a rude reply, to use as another datapoint. But this is getting too serious to treat as an experiment.
Before today I had no strong opinion about you, as a person. Yet you appear determined to make me hate you, going out of your way to hurt me and to create a new personal enemy for yourself, for… what? Disgust, pity, irritation… none of these are reasons.
You put a lot of effort into LessWrong, into experimentation, reading, posting, all to try to tweak your ability to act rationally just a little better, to become just a little more optimal. But what’s the point of working so hard to be just a little more rational, when you indulge in such destructive behavior on a whim, or out of cruelty?
Can we not do this?
ADDED: I wish the people downvoting would explain themselves. I’m trying to understand why you’re doing this, and I can’t come up with a model. What are you thinking?
Insulting people is fun. You basically hung your ass out to get spanked. Gwern is being rude but his making fun of you is a lot less “destructive” behavior than your overreaction to it. Treating responses to your comments that are rude as “creating an enemy” is ridiculous, especially in the context of the internet and ESPECIALLY ESPECIALLY in the context of making a post about optimal rudeness.
There’s some large gap between my mindset, and the mindset of the people voting on this thread. I see you’re trying to bridge that gap. But I find your comment, and the response to it, alien, as if you’re speaking some bizarre language where the words are inverted. I understand what you’re saying, but can’t imagine how one could say it and believe it. Insulting people is fun? My attempt to patch things up between me and gwern is destructive? Saying that cruel comments on LessWrong can create enemies is ridiculous? Saying a comment is too rude is ridiculous in a post about optimal rudeness? All these claims are exactly opposite the truth as I see it.
Most of all, the implication that rationality should not govern our most important behavior. You shouldn’t hurt people unless you have a reason to do so. That’s a very low bar for rational (and ethical) behavior, yet somewhere around half LessWrong readers disagree with it?
that fact that you don’t understand this is similarly mindboggling to me.
I read what you said as the opposite of an attempt to patch things up. To me, it seemed like you were deliberately trying to escalate a rude comment into a personal enmity, by reading far too much hatred into it.
This is the kind of broad statement that sounds like someone’s a priori self-concieved deontology. It doesn’t have any practical relation to how human interaction generally plays out or is viewed. On the scale of “hurting” someone, Gwern’s insults are somewhere between a punch in the arm and a kick to the nuts. punches to the arm and slaps on the back are WIDELY tolerated and encouraged by our social norms, and so are insults and and verbal put-downs. Unless your point is that we are regularly insanely more cruel than we should be to friends and acquaintances, your reaction to gwern’s moderate escalation is an OVERreaction.
This comment seems to me to strongly indicate you have a big problem understanding humans and should try to deal with it before you attempt to analyze your interactions or anyone’s in a social setting.
What’s a kick in the nuts between friends? We were just horsing around.
But the potential for the illusion of transparency is ridiculous, and such an action smoothly transitions into hazing and/or bullying. Which are also widely tolerated by our social norms, unfortunately, as long as the person being bullied is low-status.
It seems obvious to me that if you slap someone on the back (literally or metaphorically) and they complain, then you should immediately drop all considerations of “insulting people is fun” and stop doing whatever it is you’re doing. Even (especially?) if you think they’re being a baby.
Why did my comment provoke any meaningful reaction from you other than a laugh? For example, “that gwern, thinking he can psychoanalyze me across the Internet! No, my friend, I have problems of course—don’t we all? - but I’m afraid you’re waaaay off-base there! Jolly good try, though.”
(“Somebody remarked: ‘I can tell by my own reaction to it that this book is harmful.’ But let him only wait and perhaps one day he will admit to himself that this same book has done him a great service by bringing out the hidden sickness of his heart and making it visible.”)
Perhaps not for you, although I rather doubt it. Personally, I do many things out of irritation.
What is the point of earning any credibility and rationality if one never says or believes anything that would be accepted and believed without the need of any credibility or rationality?
Sure. I’ll stop saying mean and apparently too incisive things if you’ll stop cluttering LW with your passive-aggressive BS and re-fighting your past battles and trying to retroactively justify posts that were not received as you wanted.
“What is the point of earning any credibility and rationality if one never says or believes anything that would be accepted and believed without the need of any credibility or rationality?”
So what you’re saying is I shouldn’t trust anything you say?
I think what I was saying was pretty much the exact opposite.