How should I go about deciding whether to continue this?
With science!
Specifically, the science of John Gottman. Short version: irreconcilable differences of viewpoint are not an intrinsic bar to a long-lasting relationship. The most potent relationship poison is contempt.
I was pretty amazed the first time I saw this, and even though I’m pretty confident in my relationship, it seems like this test would still be worth quite a bit.
Does anybody still run these microexpression tests or would you have to convince the researchers to get back into it for a one off thing?
When I looked, I couldn’t find anyone offering to run this test. I hadn’t gone far enough as to contact the original researchers and see if they’d be willing to do it, but if there are other people interested, it might be worth a shot.
I assume you’re talking about the test where the researchers infer the likely fate of the marriage by tracking the “trajectory” of a 20-minute-or-so conversation. My impression is that proper interpretation of the test requires training.
Gottman has written popular relationship advice guides based on his research; I’d recommend that anyone interested in maintaining the health of their current relationship have a look. His advice makes the assumption that certain correlations he’s observed are causative, but that assumption seems reasonable for the most part. Research into the actual causal effect of his suggested interventions is ongoing.
With science!
Specifically, the science of John Gottman. Short version: irreconcilable differences of viewpoint are not an intrinsic bar to a long-lasting relationship. The most potent relationship poison is contempt.
I was pretty amazed the first time I saw this, and even though I’m pretty confident in my relationship, it seems like this test would still be worth quite a bit.
Does anybody still run these microexpression tests or would you have to convince the researchers to get back into it for a one off thing?
When I looked, I couldn’t find anyone offering to run this test. I hadn’t gone far enough as to contact the original researchers and see if they’d be willing to do it, but if there are other people interested, it might be worth a shot.
I assume you’re talking about the test where the researchers infer the likely fate of the marriage by tracking the “trajectory” of a 20-minute-or-so conversation. My impression is that proper interpretation of the test requires training.
Gottman has written popular relationship advice guides based on his research; I’d recommend that anyone interested in maintaining the health of their current relationship have a look. His advice makes the assumption that certain correlations he’s observed are causative, but that assumption seems reasonable for the most part. Research into the actual causal effect of his suggested interventions is ongoing.
Yes, that is what I was talking about. Proper interpretation may require training, but we know those people exist, at least.
Thanks for the link Cyan.