How is it a fetish and not a legitimate personal value? And the part relevant to skepticism seems totally off to me. We should never sacrifice skepticism for “fidelity” to an idea.
To reply in reverse order—I see how it’s relevant to skepticism because people are quick to believe any old thing that feels truthy to them. But there are some things you actually can put your trust in. Things that have been born out over centuries to get us closer and closer to true knowledge, things that produce real results. Things such as empiricism. You can eventually come to trust empiricism, rationality, the experimental method. You don’t have to remain forever entirely skeptical of everything. In that sense it’s a decent metaphor to compare it to a (good) long-term relationship—that building of trust by experience until it is simply natural and implicit.
I would consider it a fetish because it will make anyone out of their teens seek age-inappropriate partners. If you’re in your thirties or later and you are seeking sexual congress with a virgin then you are looking for someone with the sexual maturity of someone a lot younger than you, regardless of that person’s chronological age. Fetishes aren’t inherently bad of course, there’s lots of great ones out there. :) But this one often serves to either A) degrade non-teen women who aren’t emotionally stunted, or B) cause people to severely stunt their own emotional growth to fulfill some future partner’s fetish. Both of those seem to be bad things to me, and thus my disapproving words.
But he isn’t recommending preferring chastity in others, but rather being chaste ourselves until we have a “ripeness of instinct and discretion” (i.e. have attained maturity).
This definition of chastity includes not just virgins but everyone who shows discretion in choosing sex partners, and doesn’t accept the “first comer”.
I wouldn’t have any problem with the quote if that’s the case, discretion is good. However I’ve never seen chastity used in a way that didn’t mean virgin. Actually, come to think of it, the English language could really use a word for “discerning but liberated person”.
Interestingly, I really like this quote about skepticism, even though I strongly dislike its fetishization of sexual inexperience.
How is it a fetish and not a legitimate personal value? And the part relevant to skepticism seems totally off to me. We should never sacrifice skepticism for “fidelity” to an idea.
To reply in reverse order—I see how it’s relevant to skepticism because people are quick to believe any old thing that feels truthy to them. But there are some things you actually can put your trust in. Things that have been born out over centuries to get us closer and closer to true knowledge, things that produce real results. Things such as empiricism. You can eventually come to trust empiricism, rationality, the experimental method. You don’t have to remain forever entirely skeptical of everything. In that sense it’s a decent metaphor to compare it to a (good) long-term relationship—that building of trust by experience until it is simply natural and implicit.
I would consider it a fetish because it will make anyone out of their teens seek age-inappropriate partners. If you’re in your thirties or later and you are seeking sexual congress with a virgin then you are looking for someone with the sexual maturity of someone a lot younger than you, regardless of that person’s chronological age. Fetishes aren’t inherently bad of course, there’s lots of great ones out there. :) But this one often serves to either A) degrade non-teen women who aren’t emotionally stunted, or B) cause people to severely stunt their own emotional growth to fulfill some future partner’s fetish. Both of those seem to be bad things to me, and thus my disapproving words.
But he isn’t recommending preferring chastity in others, but rather being chaste ourselves until we have a “ripeness of instinct and discretion” (i.e. have attained maturity).
This definition of chastity includes not just virgins but everyone who shows discretion in choosing sex partners, and doesn’t accept the “first comer”.
I wouldn’t have any problem with the quote if that’s the case, discretion is good. However I’ve never seen chastity used in a way that didn’t mean virgin. Actually, come to think of it, the English language could really use a word for “discerning but liberated person”.