For others, they act like no excuse is necessary (“God has a plan”), but for themselves they look for one (“I’ve been lax in my faith”).
The explanation is that they are just trying to make their friend feel better. You cannot make yourself feel better with the same trick because you know you are secretly condemning your friend for being lax in their faith. You could deny that, I suppose, but I see this more as hypocritical than anything else.
Also, this is significantly more common in certain denominations than others. Some denominations have entire books that solely address this problem.
I don’t think that the people I know are secretly condemning their friends for being lax in their faith. It’s like they feel constant guilt, and don’t identify their bad situations as caused by the same things other peoples’ bad situations are.
Kind of like chalking someone else’s bad behavior up to character flaws but your own to bad circumstances.
Your point about certain denominations is well taken; my friends are almost exclusively one.
The explanation is that they are just trying to make their friend feel better. You cannot make yourself feel better with the same trick because you know you are secretly condemning your friend for being lax in their faith. You could deny that, I suppose, but I see this more as hypocritical than anything else.
Also, this is significantly more common in certain denominations than others. Some denominations have entire books that solely address this problem.
I don’t think that the people I know are secretly condemning their friends for being lax in their faith. It’s like they feel constant guilt, and don’t identify their bad situations as caused by the same things other peoples’ bad situations are.
Kind of like chalking someone else’s bad behavior up to character flaws but your own to bad circumstances.
Your point about certain denominations is well taken; my friends are almost exclusively one.