buybuydandavis comments on Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality discussion thread, part 20, chapter 90

[buybuydandavis]

and that the victim may conclude (as an alief—all this stuff is very visceral) that it’s safer to not feel better.

Which is in fact accurate in the presence of an abuser looking to keep you down, alert to any sign of happiness, and ready to respond with abuse in turn.