No problem with your explanation—you didn’t claim that you knew what I was saying better than I did and you basically got my point right.
You’ve pointed at something I may need to clarify.
I believe both that abusers will attack when their victim is feeling better, and that the victim may conclude (as an alief—all this stuff is very visceral) that it’s safer to not feel better. How pervasive the alief is (just when in the presence of the abuser? when around people who resemble the abuser? when the abuser is in their life? all the time?) varies a lot.
and that the victim may conclude (as an alief—all this stuff is very visceral) that it’s safer to not feel better.
Which is in fact accurate in the presence of an abuser looking to keep you down, alert to any sign of happiness, and ready to respond with abuse in turn.
No problem with your explanation—you didn’t claim that you knew what I was saying better than I did and you basically got my point right.
You’ve pointed at something I may need to clarify.
I believe both that abusers will attack when their victim is feeling better, and that the victim may conclude (as an alief—all this stuff is very visceral) that it’s safer to not feel better. How pervasive the alief is (just when in the presence of the abuser? when around people who resemble the abuser? when the abuser is in their life? all the time?) varies a lot.
Which is in fact accurate in the presence of an abuser looking to keep you down, alert to any sign of happiness, and ready to respond with abuse in turn.