I appreciate where you’re coming from, but I’m actually often intrusively aware of my position and what factors are going into it. I adjust it frequently, and this is almost always a conscious matter; the habits that I have which sometimes fall into the background (adjusting my glasses, straightening up so I can accommodate my weird breathing needs) are all comfort-based and just common enough that I can take care of them subconsciously.
Yeah, it’s a big YMMV. I used to interview people a lot and was frequently appalled to hear what my voice actually sounded like. Then people would tell me what a good phone voice I had. But I do think that in the general case, objectively recording what you’re actually doing will be much more informative than not.
I’ve found Skype conversations rather good for this—it has my video as well as the other person’s, and thus increases my awareness of a lot of my body language habits. It also means I’m engaged in a conversation, which seems to bring out significantly different body language.
I appreciate where you’re coming from, but I’m actually often intrusively aware of my position and what factors are going into it. I adjust it frequently, and this is almost always a conscious matter; the habits that I have which sometimes fall into the background (adjusting my glasses, straightening up so I can accommodate my weird breathing needs) are all comfort-based and just common enough that I can take care of them subconsciously.
Yeah, it’s a big YMMV. I used to interview people a lot and was frequently appalled to hear what my voice actually sounded like. Then people would tell me what a good phone voice I had. But I do think that in the general case, objectively recording what you’re actually doing will be much more informative than not.
I’ve found Skype conversations rather good for this—it has my video as well as the other person’s, and thus increases my awareness of a lot of my body language habits. It also means I’m engaged in a conversation, which seems to bring out significantly different body language.