I agree that these are (sometimes) legitimate things to do, and that people often use the ‘everybody knows’ framing to do them implicitly. But I think that using this framing, rather than saying the thing more explicitly, is useful for those trying to do other things, and counter-productive for those trying to do the exact things you are describing, unless they also want to do other things.
I agree that these are (sometimes) legitimate things to do, and that people often use the ‘everybody knows’ framing to do them implicitly. But I think that using this framing, rather than saying the thing more explicitly, is useful for those trying to do other things, and counter-productive for those trying to do the exact things you are describing, unless they also want to do other things.