people believing they are ‘owed’ something in social interactions and particularly those related to mating is absurd.
I think it is justifiable in some interactions (not in mating). I feel that people owe it to me to behave with a minimum of politeness towards me. Certain social interactions impose a much higher standard, e.g. salesmen who walk up to me uninvited owe it to me to be very polite indeed and never to argue with me (“customer is always right”).
I agree with what you’re saying. The way I like to frame it is that I have expectations that people behave with a minimum of politeness towards me. I don’t so much bother with considering other parts of the universe to ‘owe me something’ since that is futile. Instead I consider my social boundaries to be part of myself and something I am responsible for enforcing for no other reason than because I want to.
I think it is justifiable in some interactions (not in mating). I feel that people owe it to me to behave with a minimum of politeness towards me. Certain social interactions impose a much higher standard, e.g. salesmen who walk up to me uninvited owe it to me to be very polite indeed and never to argue with me (“customer is always right”).
I agree with what you’re saying. The way I like to frame it is that I have expectations that people behave with a minimum of politeness towards me. I don’t so much bother with considering other parts of the universe to ‘owe me something’ since that is futile. Instead I consider my social boundaries to be part of myself and something I am responsible for enforcing for no other reason than because I want to.