I like what you say here and agree that people believing they are ‘owed’ something in social interactions and particularly those related to mating is absurd.
I don’t know how much such ungranted feelings of entitlement encourage rape. Honestly, I’ve a great faith in the ability of humans to rationalise whatever they do and suspect other claims would flow just as easily. But I do know that belief that you are owed something by the universe is a recipe for failure in general. More so from women who quite reasonably feel this as ‘creepy’ and guys as ‘pathetic’.
people believing they are ‘owed’ something in social interactions and particularly those related to mating is absurd.
I think it is justifiable in some interactions (not in mating). I feel that people owe it to me to behave with a minimum of politeness towards me. Certain social interactions impose a much higher standard, e.g. salesmen who walk up to me uninvited owe it to me to be very polite indeed and never to argue with me (“customer is always right”).
I agree with what you’re saying. The way I like to frame it is that I have expectations that people behave with a minimum of politeness towards me. I don’t so much bother with considering other parts of the universe to ‘owe me something’ since that is futile. Instead I consider my social boundaries to be part of myself and something I am responsible for enforcing for no other reason than because I want to.
I like what you say here and agree that people believing they are ‘owed’ something in social interactions and particularly those related to mating is absurd.
I don’t know how much such ungranted feelings of entitlement encourage rape. Honestly, I’ve a great faith in the ability of humans to rationalise whatever they do and suspect other claims would flow just as easily. But I do know that belief that you are owed something by the universe is a recipe for failure in general. More so from women who quite reasonably feel this as ‘creepy’ and guys as ‘pathetic’.
I think it is justifiable in some interactions (not in mating). I feel that people owe it to me to behave with a minimum of politeness towards me. Certain social interactions impose a much higher standard, e.g. salesmen who walk up to me uninvited owe it to me to be very polite indeed and never to argue with me (“customer is always right”).
I agree with what you’re saying. The way I like to frame it is that I have expectations that people behave with a minimum of politeness towards me. I don’t so much bother with considering other parts of the universe to ‘owe me something’ since that is futile. Instead I consider my social boundaries to be part of myself and something I am responsible for enforcing for no other reason than because I want to.